I feel like my boyfriend isn't interested in my life at all and only about himself. How can I keep a balance with him and know that he cares?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend claims to be highly introverted, so he only likes to see me about once or twice a week. If I ask him more than that, he usually always declines and prefers to stay inside. He is always staying busy & likes to stay inside and do projects and keep to himself all the time. He is super excited about his projects, and texts me every day about them and then asks about my day, but when it comes to doing things with me or being interested in my life, it seems like he just doesn't really care.

For example, I'll go on a cool camping trip that weekend and show him pictures, and he just goes "ah, very cool", then moves on. Doesn't offer to go with me on one, or inquire further etc.

We do see each other like once a week, where we grab dinner or I come to his house and watch TV, but it's usually for just an hour or so. He says he feels like this has been fine and that he does plenty.

Is this just a big different between us? I've never dated an introvert so it's hard. I feel like he's just not interested in anything outside of his own world. Like I offer things or activities but he always says "cool" then never comes, wants to be by himself. Should I offer more activities to do with him? I'm a more extroverted girl with a lot going on.

Is this normal for guys? What do I do?

[ElementoP]

As an introvert, there's only a few people in my life who I can relax and say whatever's on my mind around. One of those people is my girlfriend. If he's putting you on a visitation schedule and doesn't inquire much about things going on with you, you're clearly not a big deal to him
I know it's hard to believe, but there are guys out there who will treat you like you're their whole world.
Throw that one back, he's no good

[Asker]

Wow!!! Thanks so much!
Everyone was having me believe 1x a week’s normal, which for some folks sure. I’m glad to hear of your experience, and def gives me hope.

thanks!!

[ElementoP]

Sure thing! You sound like a sweet girl, and sweet girls definitely deserve more than once a week. My goodness

[di6n9]

Basically what everyone said. Sure alone time is a thing, but in my opinion he's exceeding the normal limit. Maybe he's not that into you and is failing to realize it, or he DOES acknowledge and is simply wasting your time. I'd say find better girl, you deserve it :)

[Asker]

Thank you!!! This was SO helpful. I appreciate the advice, everyone had great wisdom here. Have a great day!

[LazerBean]

That is not an introverted person problem, that's a self-absorbed person problem. My dad is the king of all introverts and even he knows how to keep a conversation and interact with someone.

[Asker]

Girl, thank you SO much!!! This was such a helpful answer. Will take this going forward. Thanks for the advice✨

[LazerBean]

Glad I could help

[spartan55]

Wow, sounds like he reallu knows how to party.

[Asker]

Lol right🤣