I am 23 and she is 29. I definitely did not misread any signal. Happened at the workplace. She hovers around me a lot and always tries to get my attention. We rub arms often, she blushes when I talk to her, she's nervous (she talks really really fast like a machine gun) when I don't talk to her and she approaches. One time during an outing, we were both in the pool. She kept rubbing her butt on my arm, subtly.
I think she doesn't have a boyfriend because she has a 13-hour shift, she kept mentioning in meetings that she has no plans during the weekends, and I know during the weekends she either sleeps, watches stuff, or does errands. She has also never mentioned a boyfriend before I asked her out.
When I asked her out, it was through text. Never got a chance to ask her out at work. I was asking her if I was offending her or bothering her (half the time she never replied to my texts, and declines my calls), and that I love her, that I feel we have a connection. That if she isn't interested, I want her to be honest with me.
She told me "I really appreciate you" and that she thinks I'm smart, kind, and hardworking, and that she knows I'm doing good in my career. She also said "I'm just really fond of you" because she finds joy in me.
Then she rejected me and said she already has a boyfriend, and hopes to stay as good friends
Did I come on too strong? Is it because I let it all out in one go? I really just never got the chance to say all of this so I felt like this text was my only shit. I know love is a strong word with this context but I really do feel that way.
Is she testing me? I simply thanked her for her honesty and best of luck to them. Or she really does have a boyfriend?
I really wanna believe that she has a boyfriend. But her flirting. The indications that she doesn't have one. And the compliments she gave me really really makes it so hard for me to move on.
I'd rather she just straight up told me she's not interested in me...
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