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There’s this one guy I think is so cute, but I’m worried he’ll think I’m weird if I make the first move and tell him I want to get to know him more. He’s a goalie, and I don’t think he talks to many other girls but I’m not sure and I don’t want to just be another one of his chicks, I want something kinda serious.

He’s also around 2 years younger than me, so I’m not sure if he’ll think that’s weird or not. I planned on messaging him and telling him I’m interested and that I don’t usually message guys and tell them I’m interested, so he won’t think I’m just being a slut or anything, but will he think I’m weird for making the first move? ALSO SOMEBODY let me know if this is a sign we’ve made eye contact multiple times.

I have two friends: both are 40, have chosen the single life for years. One is a guy, he was friends with a girl in her early 30’s for a year and dated her casually for a year before he finally decided she was the one and asked her to be his girlfriend. After one year of seriously dating, he proposed marriage at Christmas. They married two months later. He’s a guy, we’ll call him Ryan. Him taking his time is fine.

The other friend is a woman (we’ll call her Tara), she’s been “seeing” a guy (also 40) for at least 9 months. They haven’t labeled it yet, every time I ask her when she’s labeling the relationship she always says “we’re taking our time with it, keeping it casual and just being friends first”. I love Tara, but she’s out of her freakin mind. I demanded my boyfriend to define the relationship after 5 months. Tara does want this guy, but she just lives in her own little shell and won’t demand what she wants. She just sits back lets things happen and says she wants him to define it in his own time (I told her drop his ass if he doesn’t define it at the end of this month).

It’s fine that Ryan took his time. He’s a guy and it’s more socially accepted for him to put off relationships and marriage. For women I don’t understand it though. I feel like when we go that route, we get used, we get our time wasted and we get hurt. I think Tara is making a huge mistake, but my boyfriend says she’s not. What if she defines the relationship and then decides she doesn’t like him after all (that’s his logic). Maybe because I’m also dying to matchmake her and there’s a friend of my bf’s who I want her to meet (because he’s dying to date her and I think they’re perfect for each other).