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I’ve been with my girlfriend Becky for a long time. I think I love her and I really enjoy spending time with her. However, she’s recently shared her ugly past with me. When she was in her younger years she had a rep of sleeping around.

She apparently was the school slut who got tagged teamed by the jocks. Becky even told me about how when she was 15 and had fuck buddies in their 30’s. And how when she was in university she dated 3 guys at once and caught chlamydia and gonorrhoea twice. Even used Only Fans to pay for school.

Even worse, she supposedly slept with other men when she was married. Her excuse was that her and her husband broke up and stayed married so he wouldn’t get deported.

After knowing all this I’m starting to look at her differently. Sometimes I see Becky the same way I see the woman in the picture. But it’s hard to leave Becky because she is trying really hard to make this relationship work. I’m a low value man with no proper education and job, and she makes feel like a high value man with the way she treats me. She really wants us to get married and keeps telling her friends Im gonna but her a ring. But it’s a tough decision for me.

She wants to meet my parents and I know they’re not gonna like her at all. My parents are and have always people skills. They can pick up on things.

The other day beck told me she’s having suicidal thoughts and being with helps her not think suicidal. She’s undergoing therapy atm.

Her book (1971) argues that men, not women, are actually the ones oppressed through courtship, marriage, and cultural expectations. She compares marriage to slavery, saying men give up independence to provide for women and children in exchange for affection. It’s been called misogynistic, but also brutally honest and thought-provoking.
What do you think—truth or outdated generalization?

📚 The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar (1971) (title changed to “The Tamed Man” for modern audience) remains one of the most controversial books on gender roles.

Villar argues men are not oppressors but the opposite: women use courtship, marriage, and social expectations to make men providers and protectors. Men give up freedom, risk their lives, and work for women and children in exchange for brief affection.

She compares marriage to slavery — the wedding as the day a man loses independence, entering a Sisyphean struggle enforced by culture and government. She also describes “female rivalry,” where women compete to control men, using sex and pressure to keep them loyal.

Other writers, like Chinweizu (The Anatomy of Female Power) and Warren Farrell (The Myth of Male Power), echo the claim that society is more matriarchal than acknowledged.

Condemned as misogynistic but praised as brutally honest, the book challenges us to rethink who truly holds power in relationships.

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