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This post was inspired by this question here. I already have my own ideas on it, but thought it'd make for a fun GAG question.

Ego ("confidence"), height & looks, and social status (money/career/success/popularity) are the three things most straight women want in an ideal man, and some even require them. All three of these things combined, makes the "perfect man." How "low" a modern heterosexual woman is willing to go or downgrade on, depends on the woman, but you can usually only lack one of them to still have a shot. Lack more than one and you're completely SOL.

So men of GAG, I ask you this:
Which of these do you think a woman is most likely to tolerate in a flawed imperfect man?

So there are a few people in my life, thankfully not many, who I have these multiple-years long conflicts with. We're talking like active hostility, they'll block me if I tried reaching out, that sort of thing. I've learned to just respect the fact they don't want to be in touch lol.

Now, me personally, I know what the conflicts are about, but I just don't see them as that big of a deal. Like the one conflict happened because the guy thought I was abusive to my ex girlfriend (I wasn't). Another happened with a girl I dated, who it turned out that she had a fiance and was dating me on the side. There's a conflict I had with two other ladies who had dated my friends, and who blocked me after the relationships ended. I'm sure there are others.

None of these people have any interest in interacting with me whatsoever and seem to be actively repelled by the idea, even years later. I guess I just don't see the big deal? Like I get that we aren't going to be friends, but we can't even engage in small talk and pleasantries? Some of these conflicts happened more than 5 years ago.

I realize that I'm probably more comfortable with confrontation than most people, but I feel like this isn't normal. Like, if you briefly dated my friend 5-7 years ago, we should probably be able to at least talk. I think the one where she cheated on her fiance with me makes a bit more sense that she wouldn't want to be in contact, but even that I just feel like replying to a message online isn't that big of a deal.

Am I missing something here?

Inspired by this random GAG question I came across here. It's a bit sloppy with the poll choices though, so I simplified it a bit.

1. Would you date a really amazing biological girl who looked like a guy/transwoman, or a biological guy who looked like a girl/low-effort transman? They have a 10 out of 10 personality and are everything you want in personality, but they look like the opposite gender to the point of coming off transgender (they're biologically "cis," however).

2. Would you date a great, awesome girl or guy who was 100+ pounds (45+ kg) overweight? They're at least 350 pounds; bare minimum, and are comfortable with their weight and who they are, physically. They have an 8 out of 10 personality. They're 80% of everything you could ever ask for in personality, and the missing 20% are more minor details.

3. Would you date a decent girl who was six inches taller than you, or a guy who was six inches shorter than you? They're also the same weight as you, but they have a pretty face. They have a 6 out of 10 personality and are the majority of everything you want in personality, on top of being super-attracted to you and want to jump your bones in bed. They're not ideal, but they're heavily attracted to you.

4. Or option D; die a virgin, having never even been hugged by the opposite gender before (or same gender, if you're into that.) Your social skills will be terrible, to the point you'll come off autistic or like you've got Asperger's. And the only thing worse than that will be your personal hygiene. You'll remain thirsty until the day you die and never know love, sex, or companionship.

WHICH ONE WOULD YOU RATHER DATE, IF THESE WERE YOUR ONLY OPTIONS?