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I feel like my ex was emotionally abusive. I used to really be into her more than she was into me. She used tell me “I didn’t want this relationship, you did”. And when people would ask how we met she’d say “I didn’t wanna date him”. I explained to her how it hurts me when she says these things m. And she’d say “you’re just insecure”.

What’s even worse, she told me about how before we started dating. She went on dates with guys who she really liked and they rejected her. So am I the nice guy who finished last?

I used to be highly attracted to her. She never wanted sex with me, at the same time, complaining that her ex boyfriend didn’t want sex with her. She barely wanted to be affectionate with me.

Even worse, she used deliberately turn me on so she could sexually reject me. Would tell me “come over I’ll lick your balls and your butt” and refuse sex when I show up. Every single time we’d have an argument, even if it’s minor she’d say “you’re getting none”. So I started keeping silent to avoid conflict.

She used to complain that I’m not making her happy and give me reasons why. Which I’ll admit I’m not perfect, I know I have my flaws and bad habits, but. When I’d tell her what she’s doing to make me unhappy she’d reply “you knew I was a bitch when you met me”.

About 3 weeks ago we went to a Thanksgiving dinner at her friends house and I felt like she was kinda flirty with a guy. She seemed very touchy with him. I even saw her put her arm around him. I mentioned it to her a few days later. About how I was uncomfortable with how she behaved with him, and again. Told me “im insecure” and broke up with me. Denied ever putting her arm around him when I saw her do it.

It’s been a couple weeks and I’m still emotionally hurting over her. Haven’t been able to eat or sleep. Having nightmares and visions of her in bed with other men. I’ve dated and had sex with other women since. But I still can’t get her out of my head. What should I do?

Basically, women who are beautiful and have the world at their finger tips, with unlimited dating options, ending up single and childless due to not lowering their standard and/or being more practical to holding out for some perfect, guy that will never come.

EXAMPLE

Kelly Hu was 34 years old in 2002 when the scorpion king dropped

She could easily have gotten a very decent man for a husband and possibly have kids. Now she is 55 years old, single and childless.

Sure, she can still find a guy now to commit to her, but I guarantee you that it's not a man she would have wanted in her physical prime and most likely is not her best option aka. she would have to settle. And with kids out the picture, not a lot of high, quality guys will take her seriously for long, term relationship.

And we see examples like this all the time, even with average and below average women. Whereby, they hold out for some perfect guy, turning down decent male partners, or raise their standards so high that the only guys who qualify are men who don't want them.