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So I've always been a rather reserved person, and never really hugged anyone till I met my girlfriend. I am 19, she is 22.

However, my girlfriend is just SO affectionate with people she is close to... I'm fine with it, but it's all new to me. I'm not used to seeing it, since I didn't hang out with friends too much growing up. To be fair, she's only this way with other girls, not guys, but I know she's bisexual, while I'm lesbian...

But anyways, she HUGS people a lot, first of all... pretty tightly, too. Face squeezed up against their face, and all. She also PECKS them on the cheek. Not all of them, but about half of them. She also likes to SIT CLOSE to them, thighs and shoulders touching and all. She even does this while in SWIMSUITS and SHORT SHORTS and TANK TOPS... so a lot of bare skin contact, heh... she says "it's just skin, no big deal at all silly!"

I don't know if I'm just weird, but doing what she does so often, so frequently, with so many friends and family members... would just give me sensory overload.

I know that none of her friends or family members are lesbian or bisexual though. So it's safe, but I can't help but wonder if this is normal...

Whenever I bring this up to my girlfriend, she just laughs and says, "How silly! I'm just really, REALLY affectionate! And besides, remember this, queen... you're the only one I French kiss and have sex with everyday, so no need to be jealous, ya goofball!"

So that makes me feel better, haha.

If it matters, my girlfriend is Black, 22 years old, 5'11, muscular, curvy... when it comes to hugging shorter people she has to sort of pick them up, or else her boobs will literally be in their face, lol. It's kind of humorous. 😂😂😂

So I've been seeing this guy for a few months now and in the beginning there were some hiccups / scares that made him wanted to end things. We almost ended things a few times. We video called quite a few times for a couple hours which usually sometimes ended up sexual. He has never been in a proper relationship before and he told me he deals with anxiety and he can be an asshole/push people away. He has told me things like he thinks about doing cute shit together etc.

there's been some things that didn't add up.. for example he would call me his girl to others but won't say were a couple when i asked. When we would want to end things the other person would want to make it work. So the last time i said i wanted to end things and he didn't want to and make things work which was a month ago.

Everytime we see each other we always ended up doing something sexual and one time i didn't want to and he was trying to persuay me. He told me he likes me , would compliment me a lot and would want to see me. Even told some of his family about me and friend. He recently told a family members partner about me while he was a bit drunk.

Anyways recently we ended up going all the way and it didn't work out because we were in a car and he tried doing things but gave up easily.

He said it was embarrasing and dissapointed about it. One thing lead to another he ended things and been feeling like this at first 2 weeks then it became a month. He told me he doesn't see a future with me/doesn't feel as strongly as i do, and i wasn't his type. He told me all of this a few minutes after we attempted to go all the way.(before he even agreed to do it a few times before making a decision on what to do)

Prior to that i noticed his texting was off and wasn't saying goodmorning/night etc. When i asked if were good he told me we were. He said he was afraid to tell me because he didn't want to "break my heart"