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28F, only thing I know for certain is I have anxiety & my self esteem could be better. But, nothing too terrible that makes me incapable of finding a LTR. I’ve been on and off dating apps for years, I don’t get how they don’t work for me as it’s known women have it easier & people tell me I’m attractive (not just family/friends). I have to use the apps bc I never get approached in person, I get the matches but in the end it just doesn’t work out. The last time I saw someone I was 23 & that only lasted for a few months. It felt like settling & I’ve become even pickier now. I don’t really have that much of a sex drive but that isn’t something a guy can sense right off the bat so I don’t think that’s it. It’s like I wonder if I’m ready to date but ffs I’m almost 30 that’s odd if I’m not. I met up with someone for the first time in almost 2 years last week & I didn’t even stay for the whole time, I left after maybe 15 min bc I wasn’t feeling it (even though chatting went well on the app), I had a long day, wanted to leave before the drinks arrived since I didn’t want him to get charged & most of all I was worried he was gay (by his voice). I usually video chat before but moving fwd that’s non-negotiable. Oddly enough I still don’t think it’s my fault for being single this long, yes I’ve tried counseling/medication & it was a bust. Can an almost 30 yr old woman date while being anxious, insecure, reserved & close to being maybe on the asexual spectrum?

28F, I just came back from a convention where I met a good amount of famous people (even some men from my favorite shows, band etc) & I was pretty laxed. For the most part they were all attractive, at times I had a hard time making eye contact but got better as I met more people. But for the average “fan girl” I was pretty chill, now why is it when I meet average men in my caliber I get so tense? They’re not nearly as wealthy, well known & while a few average men I met were decent looking they’re no where close to the celebs looks wise. I know it’s b/c it’s a superficial interaction & will become nothing more with the celebs, there’s nothing riding on it vs meeting men from the dating apps & potentially being in a LTR with one. The day before the convention I was talking to someone from the dating app for about 2 weeks & it was going okay but when we met in person I just wasn’t feeling it, was there about 15 min but dipped out b/c the drinks were taking too long & I didn’t want him to spend money on me, waste each other’s time & I had a long day. Being as old as I am & still never have been in a LTR is a red flag, especially when it’s conflicting since people say you’re attractive but men don’t notice you 🤷🏻‍♀️