Am I a cougar if I repeatedly get hit on by much younger men?

[Anonymous]

My issue is people often think I’m in my early thirties when I’m actually 45. I seem to be ageing well and have a youthful (but NOT immature) attitude. This seems to mean that I tend to get hit on by guys much younger than me, often in their early twenties.
Personally I’m not too bothered by age, if you click with a person it isn’t really relevant, at least not always. I’ve “talked” with a few of them, but most of the time I put them off, but I don’t want hook ups and that’s all guys that age seem to want.

I honestly don’t go looking for men younger than me, but they’re the only ones who show any interest. I would happily date a man my age or older, but I think most of them are in happy relationships by our age or want younger women. And I don’t do dating apps because I find them soul destroying.

Does this make me a cougar? Do these guys actually know I’m older and it’s just an experience to tick off their bucket list or should I try dating them?

[Ironic_Method]

I think a cougar is an older woman who pursues younger men.

I had a relationship with a woman 14 years older once upon a time and it was great.

[Asker]

Why was it so good?

[Ironic_Method]

Well it was originally just a fuckbuddy situation and she was experienced and kinky. But we started hanging out outside of sex, movies and dinners and such. I was very independent at this time and she took me out to nice restaurants, planned trips to venues, and just other initiatives that I hadn't experienced at the time from a partner. So in short, great sex where she was eager and insatiable, she pampered me, and she was fun. It only lasted just over a year because I moved to be near my mother because of health reasons, but we still chat now and then.

[Asker]

That does sound good!

But that does seem to be a trend with older women though as far as the sex goes. You become less self conscious and focus more on making sure you and the person you’re with are enjoying yourselves.

[Ironic_Method]

Another part was the confidence! She knew exactly what she wanted and was very much a giver and it showed.

[Anonymous]

Term is used, sure, but I see it being only into action if the women is after a younger guy.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks to gag. x