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My ex/best friend sees it different from a soulmate and I agree. He said it can be platonic. But it's basically the other half of your own soul while a soulmate is separate from your own soul. They are just in your soul family.

We both were and still are under the influence (I'm high and he is drunk) though so this may not make much sense lol

But he doesn't believe in soulmates but believes in twin flames. And I think I do too. I think we are twin flames because we think so much alike now. It's insane.

Here's the Google definition-

A twin flame is a spiritual concept for an intense soul connection with someone seen as your "mirror soul" or "other half," originating from one soul split into two bodies; these relationships are characterized by profound recognition, deep mirroring of strengths and weaknesses, and are meant to trigger significant spiritual growth and healing through challenging experiences, acting as catalysts for personal evolution rather than necessarily being a traditional lifelong romance.

I watched a couple of videos on YouTube and as a curious young woman I found a coupla comments which makes me question everything. I witnessed a female commentator arguing with a male commenter but I chose not to add fuel to the fire therefore leaving them alone. Is it true nerdy good girls who are average looking and has a kind heart not able to get more potential mates compared to a party girl who’s conventionally pretty but has unrealistic standards. She explicitly state men can have standards when it comes to women but when women have standards she called a gold digger, etc. Then he fought back ‘women like you said men’s height are a requirement but when we want women who are not fat y’all get mad.’ As for me I noticed there are some nerdy good girls able to get quality men who don’t care about looks. I keep my standards realistic and when it comes to height I prefer a guy to be around 2cm taller than me rather than 6-7 feet tall. He doesn’t need to be rich and he doesn’t need to be super hot. Thing is I’m afraid of meeting new people and avoid every volunteer and public meeting spaces hence why I’m still single because I’m too scared to have more friends. They say the only way to get a romantic partner is to meet new people but I refuse to do that hence why I’m single because I find single is easier and I hate changing my routines.

Honestly is it true women can’t have standards whereas men can have standards in society or am I wrong?