Do I settle for friends with benefits as a serious relationship don’t exist? is a guy I don’t like the right guy?

[Sugar100]

I never had a serious relationship with, never met family never lived with a guy. I’m 28 and each year my hope gets lower. ill never get married as no one wants be my boyfriend , this means no one desires me no one dreams of a future with me in their head.

i get jealous as all girls have babies and talk of how they r pregnant have 2-3 and 1 more on way.

im stuck living with my mom in a tiny depressing hoarder senior apt as no guy wants live with me.

all guys I meet they want only friends with benefits , if I ask what r we I get friends with benefits 😓

the one guy I deeply like at moment he already had serious relationship and baby so he don’t want another serious relationship rn. I’m hurt as his ex girlfriend lived my dream life, have him as her boyfriend and his baby. I would have been at peace single rn knowing I spent my whole 20s on a relationship and have his baby. While with me I had nothing just my 20s wasted.

still I want be with him even if it’s friends with benefits it would complete my soul, as I deeply like him.

the only guy that dated me and had sex was a guy that use me as friends with benefits and he forever deny meet family or take pics with me. His his girlfriend was valuable and did meet his family. Not me, but he’s only guy that stays in my life after 8 years or 9

i tried meet 100 guys wen I left him at 25 , but no one texts me, no one dates me weekly like he did, I can’t get sex from anyone.
😓I’m just confused

[ohsheeT]

Maybe take a 5 month break maybe that girls that you're jealous of because she has everything that you wanted. Baby, relax for a while and pay attention to that. I'm sure there's a learning experience in there for you somewhere. Things aren't always as they seem, like they are just because we think things doesn't mean that it's really true.\n It might look like that on the outside. So just be happy smile, take a break quick thinking about things like that. And just let life happen. Try that way once five months

[ilistengood]

Well I've had a couple. , my high school girl friend was the one i should have kept. Then later on I got married because i felt like you , and I came from the last generation to ne raised by the cleavers, and the Nelson's etc. I feel like now if it happens it is what it is. I should have never thought of it like I was on a timeline. Its been a long life with some feelings of loneliness. But in the long run its my fault I didn't reach out and and grab.

[Sugar100]

Couple of what , friends with benefits?

[ilistengood]

Those too but I meant serious relationships

[HollyK21]

I’ve said it before but Sugar you are ridiculously impatient and completely male centered. When do you get to the point where you just focus on yourself? If I were you I’d be exhausted.

[Sugar100]

My whole life I focused on Myself just be alone and working. That is exhausting to me.

[HollyK21]

Then maybe you should go back to doing that because it’s been at least 2-3 years making men the main focus of your life. You don’t listen to any advice here whatsoever you just rebuttal everything and make excuses for why you are how you are. I don't know how many more signs you need to stop centering men and focus on yourself but it sounds like that’s exactly what you need to do — stop. Give it a rest.

[HollyK21]

You should not want a man so bad that you’re willing to do almost anything even just friends with benefits, it is sooooo not that freaking serious.

[Sugar100]

I want babies before I’m 30 I don’t want baby at 35 as then I’ll be 40 wen my. Baby is 5 😓

Since. No guy wants a girlfriend then I have to be friends with benefits? Guys only agree to friends with benefits. So it just don’t exist a boyfriend that u want. When I focus on myself I don’t get any boyfriend , I just get time wasted not dating n looking.
I just want be with that guy I like that already had a relationship and baby he’s the one I’m talking to rn. I feel the chemistry wen we talk and see each other

[HollyK21]

So that’s it? You just get a baby from some random guy before 30? Because you aren’t going to marry the guy who just wants friends with benefits, Sugar. You aren’t even thinking clearly anymore it’s just crazy.

[Sugar100]

I don’t want get married it don’t exist for a guy that I want to like me back.
It’s always a stupid ugly guy I not want that likes me. Out of my leueg, I cannot force myself have sex with someone I don’t want.
If I love a guy , they never become my boyfriend. So what’s point marry if I don’t love anyone?

[HollyK21]

You are completely contradicting yourself and being disingenuous. You come on this site way too often complaining about not having a relationship and trying to find one. Yet you’re acting like that’s not what you want? Be honest with yourself.

[Sugar100]

Many have relationships and don’t get married. That’s what I want. I don’t want marriage as it don’t exist for me be able to marry the guy I love. It never came true with the guys I have loved. I have liked few guys badly and see them as my partner and no relationship ever starts and I don’t get to be anyone’s girlfriend 😓 no one likes me. I talk the same things as other girls do, I’m not fat ugly and yet no guy wants be my boyfriend

[Abbycado]

How can a guy you don’t like be the right guy? Smh

[Sugar100]

Becuz I never met a guy that I like want a serious relationship. If I meet 1 guy that wants a serious relationship it’s someone I don’t like , I think it don’t exist as I’m almost 30.

[Abbycado]

I don’t know how anyone here is going to change that.

[HollyK21]

It’s nonstop with this woman Abby. She doesn’t listen to a single drop of advice here, just makes all the excuses in the world and complains.

[Abbycado]

A lot of woe is me going on.

[DJB72]

Leave home. Move out. Move cities. There's over eight billion people on the planet. Roughly half are actually biologically men.

Leave home and go meet some.

[Sugar100]

I meet guys daily and no one wants a girlfriend

[Sugar100]

Even if there’s one that wants a girlfriend it’s someone I don’t like

[Sugar100]

I like that guy that I’m talking to rn that had a long serious relationship and baby he’s single

[DJB72]

Then don't rush it. Make sure he's real and not feeding you a line to get something else.

But still leave home. Get your own place or find a house-share.

[Sugar100]

We work at same place. Only issue is he has a baby.

[DJB72]

Why's that an issue? Asking as a single father. If he's not with the mother you need to find out why. In my case it's because she died, in a lot of cases these days it's because the girl thought she could be happier without the guy so she sacrificed the relationship.

Ask the hard questions.

[dragoblack]

From reading what you typed, you have some trauma & insecurities to work on getting over. Bringing trauma and insecurities into your next relationship, will prevent it from becoming a serious relationship.

[dragoblack]

You also just need to move out of your mom's house. When dating you need to be upfront about what you are looking for with your words, no hinting, not just with your actions, just honest, straightforward & blunt. Also, look into meetup places with common interests in your local forums.

[NathanDavis]

just make sure you'll want what you get... or get what you really want

[Anonymous]

Well, it's your personal choice.

[Sugar100]

It don’t exist to have a boyfriend everyone says no they only want friends with benefits

[Opinion Owner]

I get it, I can't find a girlfriend either... I know how you feel.

[Sugar100]

I’d rather have friends with benefits with the guy I want then a guy I don’t like be my boyfriend

[Zionne]

nauuuurrr