Why can't I find a normal guy friend without them wanting to be friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

You're using the wrong bait. ... but I think you already know that. Same old story, you see a guy you want to get to know better. You drop hints, he ignores them, you eventually get fed up and you shale yo ass in his face. Now you have his attention but for all the wrong reasons. You try to steer the conversation away from your ass but you can't because that's his focus now. And that is why you can't find a guy without them wanting friends with benefits.

Take some time off, develop an actual personality or consider more available guys.

I of course no you won't do either. Instead you're just going to get mad. But hey, all I can do is give you the info. To fix your problem. If you don't want to do that that's on You.

[Asker]

I already have a personality.. I don't drop any hints or flirt. I'm just looking for friends..🥲 I'm not mad, I just can't find a good male friend because so far, the guys I met just want some benefits : , ) I mean it's okay if I don't have any male friends, it would just be nice to have some guy best buddies. I'll continue to search, thank you🙃

[Opinion Owner]

As I said, all I can do is give you the info. You gotta be the one to want to fix your problem. You just don't want it that bad yet. Also if you were just looking for friends the gender wouldn't matter.😆 so sell that to someone who's foolish enough to believe it.
Yw, good luck to you.🙃

[Asker]

Fix what problem? I already have enough female friends, I'm just looking for a guy friend since I don't have any, what's wrong with that? Why are you putting words I never said in my mouth?🤔 you don't have to respond to my question if you don't believe me lol. Thank you for the luck though 😃

[inhua]

why do you need a friend for? specifically for them to be male?

what do they offer to you that female friends don't?

[BlackBeauty90]

Oh grow up troll. Hundreds of thousands of people have entirely platonic relationships with the opposite sex.

[inhua]

@BlackBeauty90 that's not the question. that's like someone needing an Arab friend or a gay friend or a 90 year old friend

[BlackBeauty90]

@inhua - look. Nobody cares for your racist, ignorant, uneducated toxicity. Nobody. The only people who do are people who contribute little to no value to society.

Your inferiority is obvious in why you have to ask why she needs a male friend. As I said hundreds of thousands of people have platonic relationships. And she already answered you by saying she DOES NOT want friends with benefits.

[inhua]

@BlackBeauty90 you cared enough to reply

heaven forbid men want something different to women. sure keep believing in purely platonic relationships and not just friendship by association

[Asker]

Female friends and male friends are the same, just different genders would be nice 🤷🏻‍♀️ I have no males in my life, so maybe that's why I want a male friend at least, is that weird?

[inhua]

if you want a male friend, understand that the dynamics are going to be different. they can't be themselves around you as they are around each other whether it's a social setting like a party or a physical setting like sports

and the moment someone catches feelings, that friendship will no longer be a friendship

[BlackBeauty90]

@inhua - not all men are DUMB animals like you. Most men are capable of deep thought & acting like decent respectable human beings. As said HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of men and women can have entirely platonic relationships.

And then when get to GAG where the dumb animals pretending to be men reside saying otherwise.

[inhua]

@BlackBeauty90 ah yes, men must be dumb for having attraction or potentially catching feelings for their female friends?

platonic friendships can only work only when there's no attraction involved. you're a complete fool to think otherwise. but then again you want to water down the definition of friend like everyone else does

[HiveBee]

I have had many female friends in my life. But none were as close as a male friend.

There is always a distance between male and female.

I cannot be my real self around a female friend.

My real self, with the guys, is pointing out every cute girl and talking about how sexy and beautiful they are.

That's man life.

I have one or two female friends that I can do that with. They will even point out the pretty girls to me, and be like "go talk to her! Why not? Pussyyyyyy!!!"

But those girls come from a non white culture where it's OK to be a man. Meaning it's OK to be obsessed with female beauty. Meaning it's OK to have lockerroom talk with fellow men. And it is NOT seen as the evil patriarchy self reinforcing bad male behaviors behind closed doors.

The simple fact is there is sexuality between us. And you cannot be real friends unless that is understood.

[spartan55]

No guy wants to be your friend.

[Asker]

I don't think all guys are looking for friends with benefits, they're just harder to find but why is it so rare?

[spartan55]

A lot of it has to do with age.

[Asker]

Sorry wdym by that?

[spartan55]

Guys your age are rarely wanting a committed relationship, hence most want friends with benefits. When I said no guy wants to be your friend, it wasn't satire. Some guys may end up being your friend, but that's almost never the goal.