Why guys refuse me for friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

Hello everybody
I'm usually very busy and have a little time, maybe one or two days per week (3-4 everything hours approximately) so I'm searching for some casual dating, no strings attached, but guys vanish when something like that needs to happen. I know they like my look, we meet for a coffee to see how we're in live, is there a chemistry and always everything is good, but after I get busy for a week without texting them for the first evening together, they usually ditch me, or they just don't agree for my free days while I give 4 proposals. Why is nobody wants to date casually with me? On the first chat they say they do, but after that they're only writing and chatting which becomes boring for me quickly. If I'm gone for a few days - they're gone too.
This is happening so long, I'm in my 20s while they're near their 30s or early 30s. Tinder is not working looks like. I'd understand if they vanish after night together but they vanish sooner...
What's the trick here, should I act like I wanna relationship so they feel they're cheating on me and be fulfilled or there is something else I should do?

[provokeesmokee]

Are you being clear you're only looking for a fling or hook ups?

It sounds to me like you're an attractive option for a long term relationship, and that's what these guys are wanting.

Or maybe if you're clear, they're perceiving you as not someone they can target or play games with - and that's not what they want.

If you can tell a date isn't going your way, try to get feedback before they leave.

[Anonymous]

Guys have emotional needs to. SHOCKING I know! But believe it or not we do have feelings. Just because you don't recognize them doesn't mean they're not there.

My guess is you're choosing guys with options. Or at least more options then you realize which is why you keep failing.

[Opinion Owner]

In short why would a guy choose a woman that just wants to get her f*** on with him. If he's got the OPTION of a woman who's the total package?

[DarkLegacy]

It is probably because they had gfs or just can't be bothered or can't travel to you for whatever reason.

[In_Trance]

Because you're very busy and have a very little time

[Asker]

Well looks like I hit myself with my own rock... They want someone to book, I want to make bookings also and now I'm like this... How should I find the middle?

[In_Trance]

make time fore whatever you want the most

[Anonymous]

I could easily set you up with guys I know based off your description lol

[spartan55]

You must put a bad vibe of some sort.

[DextroShade]

What is your height, weight, and dress size?

[Asker]

168, 60kg 103-77-103cm, L size, D cup, long hair, straight teeth, light eyes, japanese tattoed eyebrows, plucked natural mouth... Look, I'm good looking

[Wise4myage]

Have you tried Tinder?

[Asker]

Yes all of these happenings are from tinder

[Wise4myage]

That's weird you keep getting rejected.

[Asker]

Yes very weird... One guy got a boner from kiss but now he doesn't reply

[Wise4myage]

Maybe friend with benefits just isn't for you?

[Asker]

But relationship for sure isn't for me now. It'd be dating in my spare time plus a lot of chatting which is exhausting for more than a 3 days per week. One guy was writing me for 3 whole days, when we agreed to meet, he said he's not free both of the days I said it. Everyone is free on Sunday