Why did he want to have sex but doesn’t want to be friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

A guy I dated for a little while had a short relationship mostly like a friends with benefits; however, we thought about future together and we came to the conclusion that long term we aren’t meant to be. We went out separate ways from a 2 months. This week we ended up seeing each other again, long story short it was his idea to have sex again. I agreed, it was fun. I am okay with having sex with him casually not really more than that. He however refused to the idea because he felt like I am not respecting myself by seeing him even though I have no intentions of marrying him or anything like that. I was confused because I enjoy the casual sex and occasional cuddles and couple like things. He kept refusing the idea. It is confusing because it was his idea to have sex.

[Chris_Morgan]

I think he may be like me in that I kind of cringe when I hear the term "Friend with benefits." I think having a sexual arrangement like that can take away the natural spontaneity of sex (Especially when you basically have sex appointments), as well as it can hinder people from actually finding a good relationship. For some guys friends with benefits can even feel like an obligation, not love and not true freedom.

[Chris_Morgan]

Maybe he thinks casual sex isn't respectable when a person makes a habit of it?

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

because there's no such thing as "friends with benefits"

Just like there's no such thing as "just friends"

You sound like a moron, saying those things