Friends with benefits and he gets a girlfriend and stills want to be intimate?

[jahnam]

I have been friends with benefits with this guy for over a 1.5 year. I would come over his house and spend lots of time with him. Hours all nighters etc. Since April he has refused to allow me over his house. He admitted that he was with someone now but he still wanted to see me and wanted to see me forever because he cared about me as a person. I told him that I didn't want to see him anymore since he was in a relationship now because he could not give me exclusivity. However I was good for 2 weeks and then gave in but I told him I would only be with him until I had a boyfriend. He says he would never not want to see me or be with me. He would always make time for me forever. He said that he feels like I am seeing him as an object because I only want him for sex. I told him I just can't be with him if I am with someone else. He said he cares about me as a person and its not just about sex that's why he wants to be in my life forever. I don't understand how you can say that and not marry them? I can't understand why he wants to still spend time with me still even thought he is with someone consistently.

[dwcl99]

That's tricky. He obviously wants to continue being intimate with you. I guess that you are really good, and he doesn't want to let you go. It does seem like the two of you have had some sort of relationship, since the two of you were "together" for so long, and maybe the two of you are compatible sexually, but wouldn't work together in a relationshp, which is why he got a girlfriend.

But my advice would be to do what feels right for you. It'll be hard to do, but if the two of you want to continue having a consensual sex only relationship, then the two of you can do that. Is it morally wrong, yes, but Im not judging you. If its something that you want to keep doing, then keep doing it.

[Fatherhere901]

So many questions that were not explained or answer.

Does the friend's love interest know the relationship you had with her new "Boy-toy?
I would say she does not because he "Cut you off" completely from having contact with her. If she does not know, he knows she would leave if discovered. If she does know, then the Isolation from you is a condition for her to stay. Which would also explain why he wants the "Down low" with you.

Why won't he let you come over to see him and meet her?
In addition from above, could she be in fear that you might steal him away? Do his other friends met her? Are they allowed to visit or go out with him?

[Anonymous]

This one is easy! Like most guys he likes variety. Guys consider sex like eating. Occasionally we like something different even if you eat well you get tired of the same old menu and presentation. Yeah sex is good within a romantic relationship but it is also good anytime. An orgasm is a reflex and can be achieved with any partner. It feels good. More sex is better sex for guys. I'd probably screw most of my female friends who rate a 6 or above. And yeah, I'd still love to maintain the friendship AND the sex.

[spartan55]

Apparently you don't understand how friends with benefits works. You want exclusivity? In an friends with benefits? That's a joke right?

[_SOARER]

Why isn't he your boyfriend?
This is retarded
Tell him you want to be in a relationship with him. If he acts funny and says no
It means, That "forever" is bullshit and he just wants to keep having sex with you

[Red_Dragon]

Yeah I got a girlfriend and fuck buddies too 🤷‍♂️. Some of us want cake and ice cream. Not just ice cream.

[boggboss]

Because you give him sex and make it easy to cheat how can u be this gullible

[jahnam]

I fell for him thats why I'm having such a hard time letting him go... too many memories... I need some tips on letting go

[boggboss]

It's hard but like taking off bandaid rip it off

[jahnam]

Thanks

[Finchie40]

He just wants you for sex and is lying to you , you are just a booty call to him and a convenience

[ItsTheNephilim]

He's just coming up with lame excuses to keep you for having sex.

[Meatboy02]

Don't continue being intimate with him. He's a cheater

[asshole_]

You need to grow up

You're 39!

ACT IT

[Crazyguy22t]

Basically he want you to give him sexual pleasure for lifetime..

[phatdrummer650]

Since when does friends with benefits mean exclusive relationship?

[Tamera952]

Yikes, that's a tricky one.

[Fuentes]

Cause he for everybody