I have been friends with benefits with this guy for over a 1.5 year. I would come over his house and spend lots of time with him. Hours all nighters etc. Since April he has refused to allow me over his house. He admitted that he was with someone now but he still wanted to see me and wanted to see me forever because he cared about me as a person. I told him that I didn't want to see him anymore since he was in a relationship now because he could not give me exclusivity. However I was good for 2 weeks and then gave in but I told him I would only be with him until I had a boyfriend. He says he would never not want to see me or be with me. He would always make time for me forever. He said that he feels like I am seeing him as an object because I only want him for sex. I told him I just can't be with him if I am with someone else. He said he cares about me as a person and its not just about sex that's why he wants to be in my life forever. I don't understand how you can say that and not marry them? I can't understand why he wants to still spend time with me still even thought he is with someone consistently.