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Would you date "a 5 out of 10" who really had the hots for you?

This reminded me of someone I used to know back home. Her name was Gabby. She was many things I did not personally go for in a woman, but other men probably would've liked. She was short (5'4"/163 cm), 21 years old, petite/skinny, a B-cup, and with a slim waist and a pixie-cut blonde hairdo. She was very energetic and outgoing. She would also drink a lot and I don't like or drink alcohol.

She was a friend-of-a-friend; specifically my best friend's girlfriend's college roommate. So when I hung out with my friend on Friday nights to have dinner and play cards, and he brought his girlfriend, sometimes Gabby would be there, too.

We had a lot of things in common. We both loved the same video games, we both were artistic and drew pictures and wrote fiction. And we were both in college at the time (2017-2018).

She wasn't really my type physically, and there were too many offputting things about her for me to like anything about her romantically, including her saying how she was "bi-curious" (gross). And how she once said at the table, "I only like tall guys; like six feet and up! You know, like you!" I quickly told her I was "five-eleven, not six feet. I don't meet your dating criteria." It was such a f*cking turn-off and I already didn't like her much. Any girl who says that is dead to me as a dating option.

But she kept thinking we should get together and be a couple, and pretty much hinted at this non-stop, doing everything but outright saying it, very time I met up with my Leo and Taylor. I was single and looking at the time, and my Taylor thought me and her roommate 'look like a great couple'. But that just offended me even more, with the implication that some tiny,9 0 pound, hyper-active, alcoholic, high-energy pixie chick would be "my type" just because we had a lot of hobbies in common. I hated that people thought of me like that.

You have this guy friend you've known for ten years. He likes you- he's asked you on dates before but you've always said "no" because you don't want a relationship. But you're close. He comforts you when you struggle- most recently with the loss of a family member, flying to a different state to care for your nephews. You talk and hang out often, sometimes at each others' places. He is always there for you and stops whatever he's doing to help you. He recently bought a house and took a management position at a major company. Your mom likes him. You feel safe around him and trust him with your life.

He recently started dating a girl. He's even introduced you to her. You immediately become jealous and insecure. You call and text your "friend" more often, telling him you "think of him". You buy him things that you know he likes. You drop subtle criticisms about his girlfriend. You invite him over for dinner one evening. He feels something is "off" but you say everything is "fine". Your conversations seem normal and casual. He continues talking about his girlfriend and being excited to meet her family. You're confused. You don't know if you really love him or not.

You can't take it anymore and decide to ghost him. Cold turkey. No contact. Your friend is obviously confused and worried. After a month of ignoring him, he comes to your apartment door. He knocks but you don't answer. It's pouring rain outside. He has keys to your place but he doesn't come inside. He sits down with his back against the door and begins talking as if you're there. He says he loves you; that he always has. He observes you're hurting and he says he's a bad friend for hurting you, but he doesn't know why. He says he will walk out of your life if means you'll be happier, but he at least wanted to say goodbye. He stops talking. You...