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So I have kind of like a boyfriend.. it feels like he’s going to be my life partner..

he has blue eyes. He has a daughter, she also has blue eyes..

before I met them I’ve always worn contacts purple, green, grayish green (not blue)

my natural eyes are brown.

Now I feel rather stupid or absurd putting them on because they have natural colored eyes.. I never felt bad about putting them on because it was part of my getting ready routine and it did make me look a little extra more put together like part of my makeup. I don’t really wear any makeup and the contacts makes the entire look come together..

but I can’t help but feel so “wannabe”ish now …

I never saw it that way at all.. and now somehow I feel like I’ll be judged.. in a bad way..

I have a lot of hair for example, and very long, and when girls who wear long extensions ask me about my hair and I reveal it’s all my natural hair, I can feel it in their face expression and mannerisms they feel uncomfortable now that theirs is fake.. they don’t say it but I see it and feel it, and I can’t help and feel the way they look upon finding out they’re fakes in front of that they’re trying to copy..

so my question is.. if I’m with them , should I stop wearing them?

Any guys here with colored eyes? If you found a girl and became your girlfriend an thought about life and family with her, if you notice she’s wearing contacts not for seeing but just to change her color eyes, would that make you feel like she’s a fake wanna be type of impression?

as of now he’s never seen me with contacts at all. I always show myself natural because I feel that is weird.. but if we actually stay together it means I won’t be able to war my pretty contacts again? Without looking all fake? :/

what’s you advice on This?

I dated a man who discarded me fast after making me feel like he genuinely liked me but the moment I put a boundary on sex in which he knew about in the beginning he became very demeaning and he discarded me.. he is almost 40 and seems like he doesn’t know how to genuinely love a woman.. he seems to treat them like objects or status… since he comes from a religious, achieving family.. we weren’t intimate and we didn’t have a relationship bc he claims he wasn’t ready even though he made it seem like he wanted more in the beginning.. I feel like he’s the kind of guy who has a big ego.. he felt rejected and entitled but and there was no sense of empathy when he decided to discard and throw things back in my face… I just feel like he’s a man who doesn’t genuinely like women..

I think he lives a double life by possibly having sexual urges to sleep with trans women and he loves trans 🌽…

Can any man help me decide if this is typical downlow behavior? Seems like he can perform on how to treat a woman but is actually not caring or selfless/ knowing how to genuinely love a woman?