Why am I treated like a monster for wanting to feel feminine and beautiful?

[ElizaPam]

I’ll just never understand why I’m not supposed to experience the joy of feeling beautiful. ill never understand why it’s so wrong for me to enjoy beautiful and feminine things. I’ll never understand the harm of femininity. Nobody has ever even tried to help me understand why this world is the way it is. Why am I bound to fit a personality and sexuality that feels wrong to me? Why am I supposed to be big and strong and tough and suppress my emotions? I don’t want to do that. it feels wrong. i don’t want to grow body hair and face hair and go bald. I don’t want to only wear boring clothes. I don’t want to pursue women romantically. it feels so wrong. Yet I’m treated like a monster. I’m made to feel like the world hates me. I’m ashamed of myself

[Zack-Bann]

To assume that all men are boring and lame is already a sign of distorted reality
Or selection bias


No one every told any man that they NEED to be a boring math teacher with a tucked in shirt and a balding head


Many men aren’t that
Many men dress nice, live creative and fulfilling lives, maintain body and hair, even shave their beards


So your victim card is beyond forced if you think that disapproval over a transition is the same as forcing you to be boring


And I’m not one to judge people’s decisions either.
If you’re a fully able adult you should be allowed to decide for yourself what you want to be


The only thing I don’t like is the political undertones of these communities


Because too fast it becomes no longer about personal acceptance but about pushing the agenda onto people who didn’t ask for it


And maybe that’s not you, but let’s not pretend it’s not a common thing
And it takes a few to give everyone a bad name as we know.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well first, you aren't a monster, let's get that idea out of the conversation, society just believes reality doesn't change, reality remains a certain way and when we are born a certain way, we can't change it the way some people like yourself want to change it, this can be viewed in endless perspectives, but instead of you feeling like you don't belong the way you are, we believe you should be trying to find comfort in the way you are instead of fighting reality and trying to change it, it's wrong in the sense that you shouldn't feel like you have to change all these things to be comfortably living, it not only seems like you are living a false reality from a third perspective but trying to get others that don't want to agree with it to agree with it is a whole other issue within itself, which can lead to a hatred from specific people because they deal with their own emotions differently.

[ElizaPam]

Don’t men ever wish they could feel beautiful and enjoy cute things and want express their emotions freely? I don’t understand why men are supposed to be tough and strong and emotionless I don’t want to be like that and I can’t force myself to be like that

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I only speak personally and I can't say that I've wished for many of these things but who says you can't, you don't have to change your whole life to do any of these things, but we all make our choices of course.

[Kingofkings1992]

God damn, that's one long sentence

[ChicoFromThe305]

5 more like this and I can finally make a paragraph 😂

[RandomGirl42]

It's never wrong to be true to ourselves. The only one we ever have to answer to is the one in the mirror. I celebrate you daring to be you. 💖

[FreyaRed]

Do what you want. But why do you have a need others have to admire you for your desires?

[Friendlybro79]

Here's what I wish for you. I wish for you to find the strength to recognize some people just want to make others feel bad for being themselves. It doesn't make sense and I don't understand what they get out of being cruel. Here's the thing. We are not always going to understand why others act the way they do to others.

So with that, we all have to find the strength to believe in ourselves, know deep down what other people think doesn't really matter, and to be happy in your own skin because you do have a right to be happy.

There are people who will love you for you but before any thing else you gotta love yourself and you should. Rooting for your happiness.

[RavVid]

It is pretty simple. By embracing your femininity you are also embracing that men and women are different. You are signalling to other women that you are not wanting to become a man. And they will suspect that you actually like men.

So of course they will call you a pick me and put you down. Rightly so too. How dare you be feminine.

[fish5505_87]

Your not a monster, you are wonderful human being. You are beautiful, and strong. Navigating life can be a challenge for many of us. Stay positive, get professional help if you need it, no shame in that. Stay confident and move forward. Be the person you want to be! I'm rooting for you! Good Luck, I'm here if you want to talk.

[FunkyMonkee]

There's nothing to be ashamed of and, you're NOT a monster!! If it suits you, DO IT! As long as you aren't harming anyone else in the process. You do you! No one else ever asks YOUR permission to be THEMSELVES, do they?

[Berethor]

Because someone who was born as a male should be acting like a male, don't be weird.

[ElizaPam]

But I don’t want to it feels so boring and lame 😭

[Agape93]

Huh you're alive, I was wondering where you went. Welcome back hon

[ElizaPam]

I’m kinda surprised you’re still here I was afraid of coming back and you would be gone lol

[Agape93]

Nah we are legion babe.

[Shiprex]

Being openly feminine is a danger to the powerful misandrist lobby who control much of the media.

Do you and screw them.

[Mac-One]

Don't be ashamed of wanting to show traditional values. The world has become so screwed up by groups wanting to destroy everything.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

No, you’re treated like a monster for that ugly ass racist flag on your profile

[loveyouoak]

Ignore the haters and live your life. This is your life, not theirs.

[blackeagle007]

Who told you that you can’t be those qualities?

[ABC1x1x]

Your entire premise lacks detail and is silly to begin with. Maybe don't be stupid.

[Anonymous]

Fortunately, I've been hearing that transvestitism (transgenderism) is starting to trend downward from what it's been. So maybe normal femininity and masculinity will begin making a come-back

[WellBye]

Stay strong bro.

[MasterKS]

be yourself and dont care others.

[Mike_Hum]

Cause you’re a dude.