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I’m wondering if this guy at work could have a crush on me or at the very least find me attractive. We work in completely different departments so there is minimal chance that our paths would cross in a work related context. Here is a list of his behaviours:

He is the one who started interacting with me. I noticed him gazing at me one day, our eyes met and he smiled at me.

The gazing/smiling happened a few times and he would always be the first to smile, I’d always be the first to look away.

When I eventually said hi to him, he smiled even more

He went through a phase of ignoring me and looking away when stood near me

When we do talk, he is smiling the whole time.
On our first proper interaction, he asked where I work and he said twice that he will have to come and “check it out”. I also told him what time I finish.

My friends said that they saw him walking past our office and staring into our office, ten minutes after I finished.

He acts somewhat awkward/fidgety when we walk and he sometimes backs away/walks away when we talk.

My work friends have noticed the way he looks at me. One saw us talking and she said “if my boyfriend looked like that at another girl, I’d be upset”

I was walking behind my friend and he was walking towards us. He was practically fixated on me and staring at me, then I looked at him, and he smiled at me.

I’ve never seen him talk to other random girls who aren’t in his department.

I’ve noticed that he will mess with his hair if I am nearby.

We sometimes make eye contact from afar.

Yesterday, as I turned around, I saw him looking away quickly which would indicate he was staring at me. And then as I was grabbing some cutlery, I looked up and he was staring at me.

There are some things I find confusing:

I’ve never caught him staring at me and looking at me loads
He never looks at my body, he just stares into my eyes and at my mouth
The whole walking away/backing away when I’m talking to him confuses me

What do you guys think?

So I’ve had an online friend for a few years and he started wishing me a happy birthday every year after we got to know each other a little better. There were times where he would & I wouldn’t, when that were the case, he’d follow up a few days or maybe a week after saying I forgot it was his birthday (more subtly). Last year, he wished me a happy belated & this year I decided to also be more laid back. I just asked him if he had a good birthday maybe a day or two after it actually happened, I sent him that message after he followed up with me about something else. He leaves me on read yet continues to view my IG stories.

This has always been the case, he’s always one of the first to see my stories but may go weeks without msging me. A few years back, he’d literally go weeks without replying but will be the first person to see my stories or comment. But when I’d take long to get back to him, he’d *jokingly* say that I’m ignoring him or ask if I’m busy. Honestly I don’t feel like I did anything wrong so I don’t see the need to reach out, it just seems hypocritical. You can be busy but I can’t? He hasn’t made a comment like that in years & his response time has gotten better. I have a tendency to delete people when my frustration has built up, I don’t know if it’s an avoidant personality style trait.

I just…couldn’t bring myself to confront him and ask if he was upset with me. I just felt apathetic yet hopeless in a way, even though I had total control. It’s been over 5 months since I heard from him and we’ve never gone that long without talking, so I took a hint and removed him (unfollowed him/he’s no longer able to follow me) from my IG. He’s still on FB, gaming app & linked in but those platforms are a lot less personal. Now I officially have no “friends” and at 30F I should be A LOT more upset but it’s more worrying about how I’m perceived. Is avoidant attachment the cause? Or excuses and I’m just a shitty friend?