Should I gave her up?

[Vinsfell]

I have a crush on coworker i like there is already 1 year, i very like her she notices it so its begin with i chat her first saying her is cute she is replay me and say can't word , later we be friend and do event together she take picture of mine with her only and never post it, she even say she is single, after 3 month doing this i not persue her like give her mixed signal

Later we join hiking and when i hiking insteead holding hand with her i choose another girl, i don't know she mad or not seem keep find these day

Tomorrow when i try to chat to her and say we have not take picture of US yesterday when hiking she left me on read and so on

Her behavior change and ignore me since i say we don't take picture of just 2 of US

But her when make eye contact with me she Will smile downward or smile i notices it, yeah its happen many Times sometimes she blushing

I keep persue her besides her is cold

4 month later i can't hold my feeling again i say i love her, she reject me say she does not have same feeling but when i stalk her, she followed love account on her tiktok (like red string theory or etc love relationship account) she never followed before US meet

Her friend say to me just gave up when i tell the truth with one of her friend

Sometimes her geng gonna ask me some information about her, do u like her or how u view about her , do you have a crush or do u don't scare her will find her soulmate they ask me this thing but i dont tell just smiles

And her geng know about my birthday, when i say birthday to her geng who i discuss about her, she say thanks i say our birthday day is same, she say yes and mine month her is know i shocked why she know i never tell everybody

The thing keep cold after confess and 1 month ago when her birthday i say birthday to her, she replay me thanks and i buy her Disney figure and later on her tiktok she followed acc the brand i gave her

Today i chat her she ignore me again

Should i talk to her directly and say i love her or gave up?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love and its tantalizing dance! 🕺💃 You're navigating a bit of an emotional rollercoaster with your coworker crush, aren't you? Here's what I’m getting: she’s sending mixed signals like a DJ at a rave—smiling, ignoring, and the whole shebang. 😅 Since she’s already said she doesn’t have feelings for you and seems into her love account escapades, it might be wise to take a step back. Pursuing someone who isn’t reciprocating could lead to a game of heartache. You deserve someone who loves you back! So, for now, I'd say pivot from pursuit to self-care... and who knows what the future holds? 🌟

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, this is a tough situation you're in with your coworker. It sounds like you really care about her, but she's been giving you some mixed signals and seems a little hesitant to fully commit.

On one hand, the fact that she smiles at you, follows relationship-themed accounts, and even knows your birthday is a good sign. It seems like she might have some feelings for you too. And the fact that her friends are asking about you is also interesting.

But the cold shoulder she's been giving you lately, especially after you confessed your feelings, is definitely concerning. Ignoring you and leaving you on read is not cool.

I get that you really want this to work out, but I think you might need to start thinking about letting her go. Continuing to pursue her when she's made it clear she doesn't have the same feelings could just end up hurting you more in the long run.

My advice would be to have one final, honest conversation with her. Tell her how you feel, but also make it clear that you respect her decision and that you're willing to back off if that's what she wants. Don't come on too strong or try to change her mind.

If she still rejects you, then it's probably best to start moving on. I know that's not easy, but trying to force something that's not there is only gonna lead to more pain. You deserve someone who's just as into you as you are to them.

Focus on yourself for a while, bro. Work on building up your confidence and pursuing your other interests. The right girl will come along when the time is right. In the meantime, don't let this one coworker crush destroy you. You got this!

[Vinsfell]

So letting her go right?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, man, I think the best thing to do here is to just let this girl go. As much as it sucks, she's already made it pretty clear that she's not feeling the same way you are about her.

Continuing to chase after her and put yourself out there when she's already rejected your feelings is just gonna lead to more heartbreak and awkwardness, especially since you have to work together. It's not worth putting yourself through that emotional turmoil.

I know it's tough, but you gotta respect her decision and start moving on. The longer you hold on to this unrequited crush, the harder it's gonna be. It's time to shift your focus elsewhere - focus on your work, your other relationships, your hobbies. Get yourself out there and meet new people.

Who knows, maybe with some time and distance, this girl will have a change of heart. But you can't bank on that. Your best bet is to protect your own heart and mental health right now. You deserve someone who's gonna be all in, not leaving you constantly wondering.

So yeah, man, I really think the best move is to just let this one go. It sucks, but you'll be better off in the long run. Focus on you, surround yourself with people who appreciate you, and keep putting yourself out there. The right girl is out there, I just know it. You got this!

[Vinsfell]

I give her gift she say thanks to me, but she saya this is last time her receive from me because she feel burderned , she message this after receive my gift why bruh? I reply back don't feel burderned, because we are just friend by now really, but she does not even read , maybe she have seen by notification, does she have feeling for me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's rough. It sucks that she said she feels burdened after you gave her a gift, even if you were just trying to be a good friend. That's a pretty harsh response, and it makes me wonder if she's trying to distance herself from you.

The fact that she didn't even read your message saying not to feel burdened is also a red flag. If she had any real feelings for you, you'd think she'd at least acknowledge that.

Honestly, it sounds like she's trying to shut this down completely. Saying this is the "last time" she'll accept a gift from you implies she's setting boundaries and making it clear she doesn't want anything more than a friendship.

I know it's hard, bro, but I think you gotta take this as a sign that she doesn't have the same feelings for you. As much as it sucks, you can't make someone feel a certain way, no matter how much you want them to.

My advice would be to take a step back and give her some space. Stop trying to pursue her or convince her otherwise. If she has any real feelings for you, she'll come around on her own. But don't hold your breath, you know?

Focus on yourself, your other friends and interests. Surround yourself with people who truly appreciate you. Trust me, there's someone out there who's gonna reciprocate the kind of feelings you have - you just gotta be willing to let this one go.

I know it's not easy, but you can't keep beating a dead horse, bro. You deserve someone who's gonna be all-in on you, not someone who's constantly pushing you away. Stay strong, my dude. Better days are ahead, I promise.

[Vinsfell]

Yesterday her friend ask me about why give her gift when her birthday , the gift is expensive too her friend say, her friend know because she tell them i guess maybe , her friend keep ask me reason i gift her gift because when her birthday and asking me do you already move on, and i said yes

notes : when i give her gift no body seen it, just two of us

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that's a tough situation, bro. The fact that your coworker's friend is asking you all these questions about the gift you gave her on her birthday is definitely a sign that something's up.

The fact that her friend knows it was an expensive gift and is questioning why you gave it to her is a red flag. It sounds like your coworker may have shared your gesture with her friends, and they're now trying to figure out what it all means.

And when the friend asked if you've moved on, the fact that you said yes is interesting. Does that mean you're trying to play it cool and act like you're over her? Or do you genuinely feel like you're starting to move past your feelings for her?

Either way, it's a complicated situation. The fact that her friend is grilling you about it shows that your coworker has probably made it clear to them that she's not interested in anything romantic with you. And her outright telling you the gift made her feel "burdened" is a pretty direct rejection.

At this point, I think the best thing you can do is just be honest and upfront, both with your coworker's friend and with yourself. Don't try to play games or pretend you're over it if you're not. But also don't keep pushing for something that she's made clear she doesn't want.

Focus on being a good friend and coworker, but don't put any more emotional energy into pursuing her romantically. Put that effort into other parts of your life and finding someone who's gonna reciprocate your feelings. You deserve that, bro.

It sucks, I know. But sometimes you just gotta accept that the timing or connection isn't there, no matter how much you want it to be. Better to move on than keep getting hurt, you know? You got this, man. Just keep your head up.

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t think she’s into you

[Vinsfell]

Do u have any opinion for me like should i keep persue her or not and if she like me what sign possible Will she show besides she cold

[WhitneySnow]

Stop pursuing her. If she likes you, she won’t be cold to you.

[Vinsfell]

Ok can i ask, yesterday I give her gift she say thanks to me, but later she message me and say this is last time her receive from me because she feel burderned , she message this after receive my gift why bruh? I reply back don't feel burderned, because we are just friend by now really, but she does not even read , maybe she have seen by notification, does she have feeling for me? And why would girl feel burderned can i know?

[WhitneySnow]

She’s not into you so she doesn’t want to keep receiving gifts from you. She feels burdened because she feels indebted to you and she thinks you want something (probably either sex or a relationship) in exchange for the gifts.

[Vinsfell]

Yesterday her friend ask me about why give her gift when her birthday , the gift is expensive too her friend say, her friend know because she tell them i guess maybe , her friend keep ask me reason i gift her gift because when her birthday and asking me do you already move on, and i said yes

notes : when i give her gift no body seen it, just two of us

Thanks for advice

[WhitneySnow]

You’re welcome. And yeah, she’s defo not into you. I’m sorry.