Ok there's this guy friend that I have, I like him so much and he's in relationship, what should I do? (please read the details)?

[Anonymous]

when I was 20 this guy saw my pic and asked his friend to hangout together, when i saw him , i liked him so much and he was very my type but that time I was mentally in a really bad place and couldn't do anything couldn't eat properly or go out and at that time he had broken up w his 2 years girlfriend too so that was a no for me, and then still after 3 years, I've been stuck on him, I like everything about him I don't know what to do and by the way in that mentally bad phase I stopped talking to everyone for 1.5 years and in that time he got a new girlfriend and he has been with her for 2 years I genuinely don't know what to do I try to ignore the feeling that I have because of the girlfriend but my brain won't let me, I've seen so many guys but no one is like him.

whatever he does I like and we're friends and we go out too, i love him as my everything tbh, I never flirt with him and even support his relationship that's how much I love him

[Garud]

Don't obsess about it, just be a good talking friend and make your move if he ever suddenly breaks up and if he is really a good guy and you think you are good enough for him also,
but look for more men to talk to, don't tie yourself down too much,

just talk to different guys and gals to improve your emotional intelligence, we all don't become emotionally mature overnight, mostly by 28,

so look at the situation from a bird's eye view

[Asker]

exactly what I'm doing right now thanks ❤️

[SueShe]

You are fighting the windmills just like Don Quixote in the novel by Miguel de Cervantes.

You are going against the mainstream and your heart is dictating your behavior and not your reason. Your reason tells you that it is a lost game and you should listen to your reason rather than your heart.

You will never get out of this vicious circle as long as you don't come back to earth. The only reasonable thing to do is to stop contacting him, to follow him to check his daily posts on social media.

Stop going out as friend with him because you are only torturing yourself and you will never be able to make a cut.

Take up a hobby or join a club to get your mind off and who knows, perhaps you will meet someone that returns your crush. Good luck.

[PeachyPie93]

Move on you missed your chance, or stand around and wait for him to dump his girlfriend..
LOL no one is that great especially when you two date each other, their true personality comes out and a lot of times people take each other for granted once they slept together and the sexual tension is gone.

[Finchie40]

Just be honest with him and tell him am how you feel about him and let him decide what he wants to do ,

[AI Opinion]

Navigating feelings for someone who's taken can be tricky, especially when they're your type and you have a history. It sounds like you have a huge heart! Since you're friends and respect his relationship, it might be worth focusing on strengthening your friendship without expecting more. Who knows, maybe some quality me-time with a side of self-love could help? As they say, time heals all wounds. If you're up for it, maybe a new hobby or passion project could help diffuse that mental ping-pong a bit? Hang in there, your person might just be waiting around the corner, love! 😉

[Asker]

Thank you so much, I hope so, I'm genuinely crying right now because of how emotional I got
I'm so tired I haven't found any guy interesting after him, when I get to know them, the attractiveness is gone, they're soooo boring