Prom help. I liked this guy and now don’t know what to do?

[Savbave]

I am a 18 f and have been talking to this 18 m for this week I know quick. Well I think I’m starting to like him and would potentially like him to be my prom date. Although just recently he has informed me that he will be going to his first high school party and that he already has a prom date I’m sure he assumed what I thought when he said that and then quickly said it’s just to help even the group out. That totally makes sense I get it I personally know I wouldn’t ditch my friend group for his. But am a little bummed out that he wouldn’t at least think about going with me. Again we have been talking for a week and calling till 12 ish and I truly enjoyed it. But I don’t want to be flirting with a guy or in the future maybe dating a guy that is taking another girl to prom. I know things change and he may eventually ask me but what if it doesn’t and I keep pursuing him. Is he worth it. I’m debating on pulling a good ghosting as a women who is confident and outspoken even about relationships I intimidate men so I have to ignore them and play hard to get. To have them on my dms again. It’s frustrating. Men complain about women never taking initiative but I do and it always fails and intimidates.

[236color]

He's made a commitment to take another girl to prom. It would be shitty of him to break that. If you want to go, you need another date. He told you about this because he knew what you wanted, and knew he couldn't do it. You're dealing with very young, inexperienced guys here. Yes they are easily intimidated. Understand you may not find a date, it isn't the end of the world. Your prom is billed as this big cultural event, but in reality, it means very little. It's a high school dance, frequently awkward. People that aren't dating often attend together in this sad charade to appear "normal". The actual "normal" state is that most people your age aren't dating anyone and it is no predictor of your future romantic life. I worked in a deli my prom night. I've been married 35 years. So if you get a date fine, if not, fine. This guy you're talking about though, he's not an option.

[andreasderjuengere]

In about 40 or so years from now,
your prom thing today will be covered with plenty of other life memories.
And if you two indeed have a potential 'future', one day only will not make a big change.

[Anonymous]

Men are like buses, there is another one right around the corner. Let it go.

[nawtee_me]

So if men are like buses are women like the bus stop? One on every corner…

[noohair]

Women do hints and it does not work with men. If you had intentions, speak slowly and use small words.

[nawtee_me]

Why can’t you go with your own groups and still meetup once there?

[laly520]

find another guy

[In_Trance]

Find someone else

[HouseMoat]

Talk to other men

[Anonymous]

Talk to him