What do I do with this guy?

[April11122]

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1 y

I met him from bumble.. We’ve been seeing for 5 times now. In 4 weeks.. He seems okay in person but other than that he doesn’t call me but he does text me but very vague.. last time I saw him was on Saturday and we made plans to see again on Friday but now he canceled because he supposedly have job event on that day so now we postponed to Tuesday.. I feel like he is not putting in effort. Because ok he doesn’t text a lot, but still keep in touch every day.

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1 y

Chat is he just not that into me? And why do i feel like he cancelled me for Friday to see another girl because if he has job event on Friday then he could see me on Saturday but he only mentioned if i wanted to reschedule to Sunday? ( like am i crazy or im crazy or he's playin)

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're experiencing a classic case of mixed signals. While he's consistently communicating via text and meeting you in person, his lack of phone calls, vague texting, and rescheduling of plans are valid reasons to feel he's not putting in sufficient effort. It's important to communicate your needs and expectations clearly to him and assess whether his actions align with what you're looking for in a relationship. If his behavior continues to make you feel uneasy, it might be time to reconsider the dynamic.

[Hobobobo]

You do the same thing that you should be doing with everyone.

Communicate what you want and what you expect.

Ask him questions to learn what he wants and what he expects.

Once this is made clear, tour decision making process becomes much more simple.

[Hobobobo]

*your

[Manuelwe]

The question is first have you had sex with him and where. If yes, he is trying to groom you into control mode.
If no, he left you and but not his wife or baby mother.
In other words, stop loving men that ate Tate or Trump like. He wants to control you. as he see you as week. Leave and build the love from nerd next door

[April11122]

How is that controlling

[Manuelwe]

Have you or know someone who will flash their cleavage to get what they want? I find it happens about when a women want a free ride on the bus. Flirting.
He is playing a similar trick. He thinks you love him so much that you can not stop thinking about him. Which is true. So he has began to control you.

[Manuelwe]

I bet you have had sex sexual contact already. How far has he
gone?

[April11122]

Bro 💀 ok so he doesn't like me? I should stop seeing him?

[Manuelwe]

Get some one who will love you not on the outside but on the inside too. Here your point of view. Tells you why he agrees with you, and why he disagree with out violence or childish mind games.
If he him bye and if he contacts you again going to report him to police. And if he replies. Say nothing but warn the police about him

[Manuelwe]

Also stop using dating apps and all that rubbish. The most untrustworthy men and women too use them.
Some shy people too. But most too dangerous to be with.
Go to swimming pool church or even sports events or theatrical.
But join a club local, or even when you go shopping. Ask him out. No saves time and pain

[Fanfare690]

Girl you deserve much better... next!!

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Flush him.