What should I do about this guy?

[Anonymous]

This guy seemed interested in me and has been sending me mixed signals. He is hot and cold and I am tired of it. We started out as friends and it seemed like he wanted to get to know the basics of me but after he stopped pursuing and remains friendly.

I tried asking him questions about himself (as friends) but he pushes me away or give me 1 worded answers. He doesn't like to have deep and meaningful conversation nor get to know me anymore.

He pretty much is only interested in chatting to me when he wants to, but when I message him he does not seem interested.

Im tired of his behaviour and I think he just wants to talk to me when he is bored. The last message he sent was a meme saying it was me, and I replied are you bored and he ignored it.

My energy is usually drained after speaking with him because we tease and joke around 99% of the time. Its boring. How can I signal to him I want deeper conversations or he can get the boot?

Updates

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Just to re-clarify he has attempted to start conversations with me and ask me questions about different games I play (shared interest) but I have also not been inclined enough to ask him many questions since in the past he has somewhat pushed me away with comments he has said. Im not really sure if I should give it 1 more go or not. I am honestly just emotionally tired

[_Maya_]

It sounds like you already have tried to have meaningful conversations with him and he is not interested. You point that out several times. I doubt you are going to change his mind if that is what he has settled into. So it is up to you what to do next. You can take what you can get or cut him off. If he really wanted deeper conversations then he would be willing. He isn't and I doubt anything that you say will change his mind. Again if he wanted that he would be doing it. He isn't.

[Asker]

True. He does not communicate his intentions with me. I called him out the other day if he was bored and he left me on read. He hasn't messaged me in DMs ever since. Just idle chit chat in group chat but nothing else.

[_Maya_]

It's too bad that is all he wants. Friendships are better than sex. Sex is temporary. Friendships are meaningful and lasting.

[LuminousMind]

@_maya_Hi, I wanted to ask if you wouldn’t mind giving me your opinion to a situation? I like your advice. I was hoping you wouldn’t mind following me so I could private message you

[Katoro2020]

Plenty of other guys in this world. Find someone else because he’s definitely not worth it and not interested either. Trust me I have been there, it’s not worth pining anymore than you already have

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion! You are definitely right, I felt like my time was wasted because he didn't really open up much about himself, and everything was surface level conversation. It was boring and yet he kept on trying with me.

[Summeroflove]

See. People like that are one sided friends. Sometimes you just have to leave people who aren’t worth it alone. You just have to say how you feel and if he doesn’t listen. Maybe it’s time to move on.

It does seem he only wants to talk when he’s bored. If you want something tell him what you want. Tell him how he makes you feel.

[Asker]

I called him out on his behaviour a few days ago, asking if he was bored. He never responded back. Chatted in our group chat like normal but ignoring me a little.

I believe you are right. Its only one-sided, Im sad to admit it but it is what it is. He is only surface level convo.. its sad.

[Summeroflove]

If he won’t talk to you. Just move on. Cowards ghost

[SunnyRS]

You should tell him you are looking for something deeper and meaningful and if he can not provide it then walk away. You deserve better than that.

[FoxEyez]

How about: You stop responding to his texts. Give him a BOWL of his medicine to calm his shit down. If he wants to act like a retard, then alright, you can leave. Because he should NOT be draining you. Like my dear friend said: "He should be entertaining you, not YOU entertaining HIM."

[Srose66]

Stay away. This is just a taste of what you will deal with. Save yourself.

[Lara_Croft]

God is Good. Don't signal anything, move on. He's not serious about you

[In_Trance]

Move on

[jimmy2]

That werid stay away