That's a tough situation. On one hand, you gotta respect your relationship, but leaving friends ain't easy either.
A few things I'd maybe try:
- Be honest with them first. Tell your friends this other guy's moves are making you uncomfortable since you're taken. See if they'll back off first.
- Spend less group time with them for now. Say you need more one-on-one time with your girl. Hopefully that'll cool things off without drama.
- Invite your girl around them more too. Show you guys are solid. That could deter this dude and your other friend.
- Do fun couple activities with just your girlfriend for a while. Let yourself miss your friends naturally instead of an abrupt cut-off.
- If nothing else works, you may need to distance yourself politely. Say you want to focus on your lady and things have been feeling off lately with them.
Bro code is bro code - don't do that to a friend's relationship. Hopefully they'll understand where you're coming from. Stay true to your girl, but don't gotta drop them fully either if you care about em. You got this!
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Whenever they want to talk about getting you and the friend together, tell them you don't want to have that discussion unless you include your current boyfriend. If that doesn't make them stop, tell them that when they persist in these discussions despite your requests to stop, it feel like they are disrespecting you.
You are the only one that has control over not being friends with people. Simply say “hey just seems like you guys don’t really respect my relationship, so I’m going to have to move on” or if you don’t want to say anything, just slowly fade yourself out.
Just continue to initiate get-togethers with the girls from the group on an individual basis, and leave the guys out of it.
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Most men that are friends with girls would date them.
Now, I'm not going to claim platonic relationships are impossible. But statistically speaking if you have more than 1 guy friend, at least one of them probably likes you.
Whether you know about it or not.I think what you just said is exactly why all of us are single for so long. Granted I do not know the specifics of your situation but what you said is a huge reason I will never date again. Women have so many options these days she could drop me because she had a cute guy like an Instagram post.
Stop being nice. I was a people pleaser too at one point and the fear of being seen as ungrateful made me an easy target to being taken advantage of and pushed in directions I didn’t want to go. Just put your foot down and if they are as good of friends as you think they are then they will respect if, if they take offense then you don’t need them. Focus on what’s important to you.
Well my advice would be to weigh the current relationship but also being wary lf your friend like sometimes having a third party interested in this case your friend may seem exciting and tempting but the hype can fade just as fast so a reevaluate your current relationship!!
What is this group a tiny Cult?
You have two choices , just see the girls in the group , or fck this egghead crazy on the side. You want to be with your boyfriend or not? , Im agreeing with him , it sounds utterly ludicrous that you need to ask.
I certainly would NOT recommend he join , its not a golf club.
Show good, committed, respectful, loyal boundaries by quit hanging out with and talking so much to other men while you are in a relationship.
Look, you keep talking with this other guy and now you are being disloyal to your mate. If you were a loyal girlfriend you'd just cut contact with this guy.
Well I don't think cutting off ties with what I presume are good friends is the way to go.. But you might have to cut ties with the guy... He obviously has a big crush on you, and since he already knows you have a SO, he obviously is encouraged to keep pursuing you.. So you'll need to talk to them about that.
I’d say tell the girls you’re cool with that you don’t feel comfortable or like hanging with the guys if they keep trying to date you and/or get you with a different guy. I’d say this so you know if they respect you and your relationship enough. But if not leave it all together. Be loyal to your man and if the guy keeps doing that to be your new man then tell your current partner and they’ll handle it in whatever way they do. Whatever you do don’t cheat or be disloyal
You’re gonna find a lot of people/men liking you in life. Are you gonna always leave your current partner for each and every one of them every time?
This is just one way to look at it but, if you have a boyfriend and he is not being sociable with the others they may see him as not a part of and think the other guy is better suited for you. And them…
Listen very closely: men are not your friends!
The reason we talk to you and hang out with you is because we want to fuck you. You are disrespecting your man by keeping this other guy in your life in any capacity.
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Sit down and tell them u won't put up with this that if they can't respect u and you boundaries u won't be able to chill with them or tell your bestfrind this
I think that you should discuss with the problem (the person) and the group so together you'll find a way to be close to each other Without being in the group
You should fuck him girl. My boyfriend thinks having male friends are ok so that gives me an advantage to fuck my cute male friends. I say go for it girl ! Your man is probably already cheating anyways
Screw their feelings! If they can’t respect you and your relationship, then they’re not your true friends.
Either stop being friends with him or break up with your boyfriend.
I'm sure your boyfriend will know exactly what to do why don't you ask him?
Tell him that you already have a partner and hope he respect that
Tell your boyfriend about it and remove all those people out of your life
Give him a chance. See where it leads u and u might be surprised that he might be a lot better than ur current one. Don't miss the boat.
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