Why would my guy friend become so distant. And why does his brother stare so much?

[Anonymous]

Right now im crushing on my guy friend. We are super close. He doesn't know anything about this. So yeah we used to chat almost every day , send tiktoks to eachother and talk everyday. Now lately he has stopped talking to me like that stopped sending me tiktoks and yk. We talk but his a bit distant and only makes eye contact. When we see eachother across we make eye contact and he smiles i do too. I realised i had feelings in January. He created a lot of groupchats and now he left but thats a big story i dont think it has to do with me it was ab a toxic guy. And yeah yesteday he wasn't talking to me at class so i teased him while he was leaving (usually we go together home but i was going somewhere else. When i teased him he turned with a smile said something i didn't hear but i saw the smile and i smiles too. Then i was going to the bus station where his brother was there too. He was staring at me so much i loikes at him too but he didn't stop looking. I was with another guy friend. He always does that. He always stares like that even my friends tell me that. He is one year younger. I dont know whats going on fr. Sometimes i feel that this guy friend is my soulmate because i always feel his presence can always feel when his behind me and yeah. We also went to the same elementary school and we just discovered that we went to the same kindergarten. We also have a pic that we are close to eachother. We startes talking last summer. We met from my bestfriends comments on her post on instagram. I decided to reply to one of his comments and we made 300 comments to my friend but in the comments we were having a conversation till he sent me a friend request. Thats why i sometimes think his my soulmate. I dont know tho why all this is happening...

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say exactly why your guy friend has become distant, as there could be many reasons for this change in behavior. However, it's possible that he may be going through something in his personal life that is causing him to withdraw or become less communicative. It's also possible that he may be picking up on your feelings for him and is unsure of how to respond.

As for his brother staring at you, it's difficult to say what that means without more information. It's possible that he may just be curious about you or find you attractive, or he could be staring for other reasons.

If you're interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with your guy friend, it may be helpful to have an honest conversation with him about your feelings and see how he responds. However, it's also important to respect his boundaries and be prepared for the possibility that he may not feel the same way.

The best way to address these concerns is to communicate openly and honestly with the people involved. Try to have a conversation with your guy friend and his brother, and see if you can get a better understanding of their thoughts and feelings.

[Asker]

Yeah but im so shy and afraid that it will end our friendship. As for his brother i haven't talked with him. Were "strangers"

[Asker]

And I really haven't showed him anything from him to understand my feelings. I always only smile and he does too

[Opinion Owner]

It's understandable to feel shy and afraid when it comes to expressing your feelings, especially if you're worried about the potential impact on your friendship. However, it's important to remember that it's okay to be honest about your feelings and to communicate openly with your friend.

If you're not ready to directly express your feelings to him, you could try dropping subtle hints or signals to see if he picks up on them. For example, you could try complimenting him or making an effort to spend more time with him one-on-one. However, it's important to be respectful of his boundaries and to not push him beyond his comfort zone.

In terms of his brother's behavior, it's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries and to communicate your discomfort if his staring makes you feel uncomfortable. You could try talking to him directly, or speaking with a trusted adult or authority figure if the behavior continues.

Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own feelings and well-being in any situation. If you're feeling uncertain or uncomfortable, it may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or family member, or seek the support of a therapist or counselor to help you navigate your feelings and the dynamics in your relationships.

[serious]

Okay I think your guy friend thinks you like someone else and so he has backed off. It could be his assumption or he does not understand whatever signs you have shown.

From your question what I can understand you only smile at him, you teased him once and that's it. You are really not doing anything to show your interest or in trying to take things forward if that is what you want.

It is also possible that your guy friend is very shy as a person so he is maybe waiting for you to initiate things but if you are also shy then nothing will ever happen. Things will remain where they are.

In my view it is better you express your feelings, tell him you like him more than friends and you are interested in taking things forward. Don't worry about his reaction or response. It is better to take this risk instead of living in regret and wondering what could have happened had you told.

[serious]

For his brother, it is tough to say from the information you have given. It is possible that his brother just finds you attractive and hence he is staring at you.

[DermalPunch]

DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT tell anyone you like them first. Let them come to you PERIOD!!

[Lord_Ateag]

You're not helping at all.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him you may like him as more than a friend and get the hard part over with

[ohsheeT]

Okay so first of all look up the word empath and ask yourself if you are one because you see and you feel things deeper than most people

As your friend becoming distance is because he's not sure how to go about asking you why you're hanging out with that other guy so he's giving you space and figures if you do like him you will go see him

As for the brother maybe his brother has told him that he really likes you but you're hanging out with some other guy or maybe the younger brother like you but now see you with another guy

So start with looking up empath find if you have all the traits of being one and if so then everything's a whole complete different answer and it all is the same answer

[Reorx]

He pulls away to see if you are going to lean in. You want to drive this guy crazy? Start by making small innocent touches, any time you can get away with it. Pay VERY close attention to how he reacts. Did he just get shocked? Did it have no affect? Did he smile & make eye contact? Did he shut down?

[strateguy632]

sounds like he has a partner but ask if he is available and meet real face to face.

[Avicenna]

Maybe he really likes you as more than a friend but doesn't know how to tell you

[EaterPeter]

You guy friend is hurt by you or his brother likes you and brother has told that to guy friend so he might be backing off or jealous. Approach the guy friend and make things clear to brother

[Lord_Ateag]

Tell your friend you like him. OhsheeT and Serious are wise. I think they're onto something.

[In_Trance]

Something must have happened between the two of you

[Asker]

Nothing really.

[Anonymous]

He thinks that you are garbage