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Some background on my friend. She is very caring, strong, and loves getting people together. Sarah is pretty, always full makeup, hair curled, and always wearing something flattering. I am one who dresses more for comfort than appearance. I don’t like wearing makeup unless we are going out with friends or to do something where we are going to be in public all day. My boyfriend earlier on used to bring up how I should go shopping with my friend so I could start dressing like her. I told him her clothes are very expensive and not something I really wanted to put my money towards even when it comes to sweats. So for Christmas last year he bought me a bunch of lululemon. He says I need to be presentable when walking the dogs around our neighborhood. My friends have recognized when they all want us to do something the only person that can get my boyfriend interested is if Sarah tells him. He constantly gets upset with me that we never do what he wants, but he isn’t recognizing we always do what Sarah wants. He is a lot nicer and social with Sarah than he is with me. When I ask him why that is he says he would be the same way to me if I treated him how Sarah treats him. He is always asking who Sarah is dating and what she is up to. This is all so odd to me because he accuses me of having things with his friends if I even talk to them for 30 seconds, Let alone if I were to ever bring them up in convo. Last weekend I was upset about something else and it made me feel not good enough. He immediately brought up Sarah and how he doesn’t want her just me. My issue with the Sarah conversation isn’t that I think they would be together it is that I’m jealous of the attention and how nice he is to her in comparison to me. Throughout the night he would come up and say the same thing, I don’t want Sarah. I finally said I know for a fact Sarah doesn’t want you so I would really appreciate you stop saying that. It also just validates you aren’t hearing why that topic annoys me. So?

A guy & I had something in the past but we broke up and became friends but there was still some chemistry by the way us. Suddenly, he starts being hot and cold towards me, he'll avoid me one moment and talk to me the next, he just kept switching for no reason. He's a player, he moves from girls to girls for fun, trying to make me jealous too but the relationship doesn't work. We started talking again then he starts snubbing me again and he gets involved with another girl, I thought he's playing her too & trying to make me jealous but they look really happy together tbh. I'm really heartbroken and stuck, I can't move on from him & I have a small feeling he still likes me but his ego is getting in the way. I don't know what to do, I just can't continue feeling like my heart is slowly shattering everyday, I'm seriously hurting. I feel so weak and vulnerable & I hate myself for ever loving him. I honestly wanted to make him feel as horrible as I feel but I'm too nice for that. Its messing with my life ; sleep, school etc cause I was deeply in love with him. Even now, I still can't hate him as i love him. How do I feel nothing towards him? How do I act cold and emotionally unavailable around him? I just want to be free of my feelings, so he wouldn't have power over my emotions anymore. I want to go back to being the flirtatious, happy person I once was. What do I do? How do I detach myself from him? Please help!