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I'm hurting right now and very upset. My suspicious were confirmed just 2 days ago when my husband left his FB messenger open. It was messages between him and my SIL (sister-in-law). He admitted to her that he always loved his ex girlfriend Olivia from his much younger years. They met as 9 year-olds playmates, then dated for a short time in their Sophomore year of HS, she broke up the next year and met someone else.

The woman is married but still has him on his FB contact list as friends. He admitted to my SIL that he still loves her more than me. He loves me but I'm not really his first option. He would've wanted to have kids with her. He also said it was true what he once told me while drunk when we were just dating. Then this was the hurting part for me, the SIL asked if he would leave me if Olivia were to get divorced now and she reciprocated his feelings and he reply was a ''Yes, unfortunately I would leave (my name) but that'll never happen. I have to accept being in Olivia's forever friendzone''.

Flashback to the time we were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

We were drinking and while making love, he called me by her name. He literally said ''Oh Olivia, I love you... yeah''. Then tried to fix it right away when I got upset immediately. He called it a stupid drunken mistake and how we would never get drunk like that ever again and even reconfirmed me a bunch of times that he got over her already. I stupidly believed him.

Is this fair? We have a 7 year-old son and he's still obsessing over her? He never got over her and just got with me as second best.

I had a really close friend who was like my sister for 5 years. I really trusted and loved her like family. In the past year before our friendship ended, we stopped talking as much. I think we were drifting apart. I tried reaching out to ask how she was and she would reply disinterested and slowly.

I asked her if everything is ok because she felt distant, and she said no it’s fine she’s just busy with life. But she said she was going away with her boyfriend and when she came back we would celebrate our birthdays together. But when she came back, she celebrated her birthday with her other friends, left my texts on unopened and didn’t acknowledge my birthday either. Our birthdays are a month apart and I bought her a present.

I felt she was ghosting me so I sent her a message to basically end our friendship. I said I wish her well and I’ll always care for her etc. she didn’t reply to that.

She is apparently blaming me for the demise of our friendship, saying I overreacted and that even though she knows she did hurt me it didn’t mean I should end our friendship. That I ended it over something stupid.

I reached out again a year later to ask how she is, because I’m not sure if I’m in the wrong or not. But she hasn’t even opened it.

Am I to blame for our friendship ending?