He said we would spend Christmas together it would be our first Christmas together and he changed his mind and said he would spend with his sister Nakshatra I don't mind him having family time but why can't I be included too I really love Christmas am freaking Christian is he not going wanna spend new years together too? I respect his family time I know his race is family oriented but I thought he would be happy to make the first Christmas special I feel weird about it I don't know 🤷♀️ advice intelligent people please u are all no worries happy holidays Dec 2023
Why does he wanna spend Christmas with sister and not me?
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That's messed up of him to bail on your first Christmas together like that. I can see why you'd be feeling weird about it. Here's what I think:
- His sister probably guilted him into it or something. Family can be manipulative like that sometimes.
- Maybe he's just not ready to introduce you to his whole fam yet if this is still new. But that's lame he didn't include you.
- Could be using it as an excuse to lowkey avoid being serious. Like testing if you accept last min changes.
I'd tell him straight how disappointed you are. Say you were looking forward to your first holidays as a couple. See what he says.
If he can't compromise, then maybe you should just do your own thing for Christmas too this year. Don't sit around moping alone.
Keep your options open case he flakes on New Years too. Not cool how he switched it up last minute though, I'd be sketched out too sis. Stand up for yourself!
Did he specifically say that you’re not invited to come with him to spend time with his family?
He's pursuing another woman while keeping you on the sub bench in case it's doesn't work out. I suggest dumping after Christmas. St Valetines is still 2 months away after, plenty of time to find a new guy.