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This question is one where I have no way of answering myself but I was curious to ask regardless.

I think we are pretty much left to on our own, to sort out this side of life through trail and error— if even that. I think many people will go to their grave not even having rally been safe if what they needed emotionally. I recall reading when I was a kid that children need a minimum of 13 affectionate touches a day. I told my my great grandmother (who actually was the one affectionate person is ever known) would jokingly tap me 13 times every morning on my head 😂 I don't know where in the world they came up with that number it’s just funny bc it’s so ridiculous but was said with authority.

Anyhow I feel like a lot of people would be calmer snd happier and more helpful to others live healthier & probably longer, if that side of life was smoothed our. It’s really difficult tho to know what you need bc emotional needs - not material replacements - tho ubiquitous are unique & hard to market and so we don’t get much advertisement for them. Plus it’s not really something considered cool to talk about so I tbh k we get used to thinking of something basic as a special need for certain people who think about that stuff bc they need it.

im wondering how many of you give thought to your emotional well being & if you are aware of being content or feel wanting, etc etc

So whenever my boyfriend and I go out to eat we have tried to split things, If its more than $20-$30 he will sometimes look at me and ask if I want to pay or ask "what should we do" He has paid for things but its for the small things. He's the one with the full time job and I'm getting there to get a job. I have discussed al of this to him and it has gotten better but i still find i'm paying for expensive things. When it comes to gifts he does spend money on me but when it comes to going out he seems to be really cheap. For example: when we went to the movies I paid for the tickets and he paid for the snacks. He ended up going to the game with a friend when tickets were cheaper. So basically i have noticed a pattern of whenever its more than $20-$30 max he will look at me to pay. I am totally down to split things but it's never made me feel "special" when it comes to him taking the initiative especially him with the job and me without a job. I just don't feel special and it feels like he doesn't want to spend money on me which he has but not to when it comes to going out. Is it normal to feel this way or am i being a "diva"?