How do I stop my crush on this guy at work?

[Anonymous]

At first I thought it was a harmless crush but now I find myself trying to look nice for him all the time before I go work and being disappointed when he's not there and going through his Facebook constantly.

I feel like a crazy stalker but I manage to play it cool in front of him and just tell myself all I want from him is a friendship and I just enjoy the attention he gives me.

He's extremely attractive and all the women have a crush on him at work. He even his a girlfriend at work but he chooses me to talk to constantly over her which I find odd. He's always running over to me at work to tell me something about his day and he doesn't have any other female friends at work besides me so I guess it makes me feel special but someone so attractive thinks highly of me.

he's also super rich and super humble about it too, he has a really cool life outside of work and I guess that's why people find him attractive too.

But I have a amazing boyfriend who I love very much and I feel like the worse person in world for liking this guy. He knows I have a crush on him but not to the extend that I do now before we used to just joke about it.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and in that time I've only had eyes for him since now. I never found anyone else attractive but him before I met this guy.

I'm definitely not going to cheat or leave my boyfriend at all he's too good to me and sometimes I feel I don't deserve him. He treats me like a princess and he still manages to be a carer for his vulnerable family members and run a business and charity.

It's just 3 years isn't the same as the relationship was when we first started dating. Now we're to tired for sex and barley have it and were just like a married old couple.

[boggboss]

By fixing things that make u sad in your relationship and stop looking for attention from this other guy

[Asker]

But how? easily said but not done

[boggboss]

As is being loyle ans sticking to one person but u simply do it or don't have a relationship unless u wanna be a shitty person no?

[Asker]

I know I won't do anything because I am loyal but I just feel bad even thinking about another guy

[boggboss]

How would u feel if you're man felt like this to another women

[Asker]

Exactly I'd feel horrible if my boyfriend felt that way about another woman. I'm not a bad person and I'm not gonna cheat on him or anything. Love him so much I wouldn't ever do anything to hurt him I would never forgive myself. But at the same time I can't control what my brain tells me I'm attracted too.

You can try and make me feel guilty as you possibly can but I still won't change things. Ives said many times now I wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend ever but I can't control my were my mind goes

[boggboss]

Has noting to do with base attraction as u say u can't control who u are attracted to what u can do is your best not to entertain that attraction if u know u feel that way limit contact keep things professional

[tefbrown]

You have a boyfriend, so you need to stick to your boyfriend and leave the other man alone irrespective of what he has. You can't just throw away a 3 years relationship because of someone you just met.

[Asker]

Exactly I totally agree with everything you said but I can't get him out of my head for some reason. I really hope it goes away soon

[Anonymous]

Leave your broke boyfriend for the rich guy. What are you crazy? Get that rich boy.

[Asker]

He's only rich because of his dad and his brother being a actor

[Asker]

I would never leave my boyfriend. He loves and cares for me no matter what

[Opinion Owner]

What you can do is tell his girlfriend he's been talking to you. He has to come to work everyday and It's going to make it very awkward for him. He will feel uncomfortable going to work everyday and will find a new job. you're probably not going to do that because you're in love with him. he's not too bright by having a girlfriend at his job and messing around with girls at the job. I know plenty of guys that have sex with women to get promoted and get girlfriends at work and they almost always regret it because they have to see them everyday. I see guys like that all the time. I never mess with girls at work unless I quit or leave to a new department.