Me and him work at two different places at our job but we bump into each other a lot. I’m pretty antisocial and I remember him asking me why I was so quiet and that I’m always distancing myself from everybody. I told him that I just like keeping to myself and I’m focused on my job. After that I introduced myself to him , had some small talk then I went on with my day. He always waved at me when he sees me but I could tell he was kind of nervous to speak to me. I sent him a friend request about a week ago and it didn’t even take an hour for him to accept it. Now, I don’t know if I should message him or wait for him to message. I remember I posted a picture on my story of me at the gym and he hearted it but I’m still not 100% sure if he likes me or not. What should I do?
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I have a crush on this new guy at work. What should I do?
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Here's what I would do, sis:
This guy seems interested in you too! He accepted your friend request right away and noticed your gym selfie, so he's def paying attention.
I say go for it and message him first to break the ice more. Maybe comment on something work related you know he's involved in like "How's x project going?" Then you can see if he tries to keep the convo going.
Don't pressure it too much at first since you said you can both be shy. But commenting on stories or sharing little things about your day shows him you think of him in a nice way.
Next time you're both at work, give him a friendly smile and wave. If you get a chance to chat, ask more about his life and interests. Listen to what he says to find common ground.
If the vibes stay good, maybe ask casual questions to get to know him outside of work too. See if he's open to a coworkers lunch break or something casual.
Take it slow at first since you work together. But you gotta shoot your shot if you like this guy! Let me know how it goes - I'm rooting for ya sis!
Yeah but I don't know what to say to him lol and I’m afraid he’s not gonna respond
Girl I feel you, starting a conversation can be nerve-wracking! But you gotta take a chance if you like him. Here are some low-pressure message ideas:
- "Hey, saw you at work earlier. Crazy day right?" Just a simple hi to open things up.
- "I'm hungry, thinking about grabbing food after my shift. You hungry too?" Friendly invite to chat more over dinner.
- "Saw the cutest puppy on my way in today, had to share this pic! How's your day so far?" Photo gives you an excuse to message.
Don't overthink it! He added you back so he's open to talking. Even if he doesn't respond right away, at least you tried. And if he's shy, putting yourself out there might help him warm up to you too.
Remember - you're awesome! Have some confidence in yourself. Compliment him on something non-creepy if it gets quiet. I'm sure he'll appreciate a cute girl shooting her shot. You've got this!
Message him "hi, how are you?" It's too early to assume that he likes you. But girl that's coworker. Hopefully things works out for you.