Does he have a crush on me at work?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy I work with in my office in Florida. We work for a corporate office. When I am by myself he is always trying to be near me, like when I am standing somewhere he is always try to be near me and be in my personal space when we are busy. Or when I am talking to someone he tries to get into the middle of it or comments. Or he will walk up to me, but I walk away because I am very shy. I have been leaving crush notes on his desk anonymously for a while now and I think he knows its me, or you don't think so? Also the other day I heard him showing it to other co-workers and asking people around. Also his scheduled has changed to match mine one day a week and it is a Friday, he never works Fridays, Do you think he is trying to figure it out who has been doing it or change to see who it is? He has a girlfriend and not single so What do you think? I notice he isn't like that with the other ladies. we are in our early 30's.

[Jake99999]

Don't get involved with people that you work with. Just don't do it. But I suppose you won't take my advice, you will do it anyway, eventually find out why its a really really bad idea, and then you will know.

But in case you are willing to consider this:

- everyone is suing everyone and opening HR cases in the workplace these days. Anything that happens that is related to pursuing romance in the office can quickly turn into a horrifying investigation that can ruin people's lives. And it doesn't even have to be you or him that opens a case. Some other person might witness something and think its wrong, report it, a case gets opened, and it becomes a mess. You and he go under a microscope. If either one of you is a manager, you get ripped to shreds. Companies are terrified of any flavor of harassment, favoritism, etc related to women. Someone will think you got your promotion because of your relationship with person X, etc. So much crap goes on in offices with people. An office romance puts you into a minefield.

- if you connect with someone romantically, and it ends up not working out, you then have a very very awkward situation in the office with a person you still have to work with. If you break up with him, he may not like that and may get all weird, and you still have to be around him every day. If he breaks up with you, and that breaks your heart, you still have to see him every day and be tortured.

My advice is to just drop it.

[GQLEX69]

I think he has an idea it’s you but honestly if he has a girlfriend you shouldn’t get urself in that mess you know cause put yourself in her shoes and if a guy you really liked and are with does that to you put yourself in her shoes for just a moment and ask yourself is it worth it honestly speaking there are so many guys In this world and I’m sure u will find your other half and who knows it could be ehhm one day in life things work in mysterious ways and that’s the beauty of it but I think u should stop flirting leaving those crush notes an tell him to chill out and fall back into his place and stop getting to close and comfy at work place it’s about work look at what happened to the Governor Cumo you don’t want that to be him or you Jew know 😉🤫😵😘 keep it Kosher & pg 13

[Jojo74doug]

Honestly if he has a girlfriend… RUN! You wouldn’t want someone crushing on your guy. We as women need to start lifting each other up.

[dreamstar72]

Since he has a girlfriend he looking for the excitement NOT the crush part.