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I met this girl at work. I thought she was beautiful and I asked if I could take her out. We vibed and she eventually said yes. At this point to my knowledge she is single because she told me she want talking to anyone. We went bowling on our second date and I kissed her because I thought it was right. The next time we hang out she tells me that she doesn't want to lead me on and that she has gone back talking to her ex again because ehe blocked her for some reason. She said that it was a mistake kissing and hanging out and that she would like to be friends. I was hurt and confused. So about a week has gone by since we became friends. She told me the reason she felt that way was because I am not her type. We are on our second week of being friends and I can't take it anymore. I think I fell for her. She tells me that she talks to these guys and how they are cute and this and that. Am I simping? I see her everyday at work and I just get my mind clouded and i start to contemplate, then i get sad and depressed and then my say is ruined. I smoke weed to try and cope with my emotions but its not working this time. I want to love her but she doesn't love or even like me. I did this once in HS, I was depressed most of the time at school. Im just confused on what to do… i know what must be done but I can't. I need advice… please 😢

Black male's experience in college

" Back in college I’ve seen the sexiest Asians just throw themselves heavily at white guys. It was a surreal experience to say the least. I thought I had some sort of favoritism being an exotic, good looking black guy.

I never dated at all in high school, so had no idea what to expect in freshmen year, but I remember the first girls I ever talked to were Asian & they wanted nothing to do with me. I had a white girl that I befriended and at my first big social circle, she was my wing women & everything she told me to say seemed really good. I had no idea how to interact with women myself but the Asian girls still seemed just… indifferent, like they had no reaction to me & it wasn’t fun. Everyone else I encountered freshmen year was extremely social & fun to talk to.

It was probably because they knew I was talking to them with romantic intent & didn’t want to lead me on or had no interest. Then I asked a close white friend and he told me that Asian girls don’t like black guys, they are obsessed with whites, don’t take it personally. Some time later next semester, I got semi close to an Asian girl whose a friend of my best friend.

When we all hung out, she talks about the little things her boyfriend does that she doesn’t like but she gets very gushing about him anyway. Fast forward to sophomore second semester we were all hanging out in the student game room… she reads her phone text & begins crying & runs to the bathroom. My friend and I share a concerned face. Never knew what happened but I thought that this boyfriend must be a real catch. Until I saw his pictures and he was a very chubby, very average or a bit below average white guy. This girl was a 5ft Asian girl with perfect features everywhere, and had a very bubbly, love-able personality. Fast forward 2 years later, they break up. It’s revealed the dude she gave so much love to saw her as a fetish to release all his desires upon."