I (34 M) first met R (28 F) in front of the elevator at my apartment building about a month ago. We happen to live on the same floor. I struck up a convo, and it was very pleasant. Ran into her again about a week or two later, and I got her number this time. We had our first date a little over a week ago. We had a few drinks together at two different bars, and the date lasted about 4 hours. I went for a kiss at the end of the night, but my kiss attempt got denied. I felt kinda defeated that night, but I texted her about 3 days later. We would exchange text messages, but she would respond very slowly, so I pretty much started doing the same. Quite frankly, I didn't expect a "yes" when I asked her out on date #2, but she responded, "Love that. Let's do it." So, I guess we're gonna meet up in two days unless she decides to cancel last minute.
I see in her qualities I'd like in my future partner. I am definitely interested in her, but I am not used to dealing with a woman who is showing a lukewarm level of interest like this. I have only encountered the following three scenarios in my 16-year dating career - 1) A woman is super enthusiastic about seeing me and works hard for my attention 2) A woman ghosts after a date 3) A woman texts me to let me know that she doesn't quite feel the chemistry she's looking for.
Have no idea where I stand with her, but I just plan on having a good time if/when we meet up. I mean, that's really all I can do. But I can't help asking myself, "Am I wasting time on a lost cause? Or do some women develop feelings for a guy eventually even after being a little unsure about him initially?"
Would love to know what other people's experiences have been like. Thank you.
I see in her qualities I'd like in my future partner. I am definitely interested in her, but I am not used to dealing with a woman who is showing a lukewarm level of interest like this. I have only encountered the following three scenarios in my 16-year dating career - 1) A woman is super enthusiastic about seeing me and works hard for my attention 2) A woman ghosts after a date 3) A woman texts me to let me know that she doesn't quite feel the chemistry she's looking for.
Have no idea where I stand with her, but I just plan on having a good time if/when we meet up. I mean, that's really all I can do. But I can't help asking myself, "Am I wasting time on a lost cause? Or do some women develop feelings for a guy eventually even after being a little unsure about him initially?"
Would love to know what other people's experiences have been like. Thank you.
