Any significance to her inviting me into her home?

[Anonymous]

I recently went on a second date with a really nice girl. We get on well and have had some basic physical contact such as hugs etc. We haven't kissed yet as she's not quite ready.

We had a bit of time before our reservation so she asked for us to stop off at her place since it was nearby.

She stopped off to buy "something" on the way, to which I got the hint it was private, maybe girl stuff, and used the time to top up my rail card.

When we got to her place, she showed me her home and started unloading tons of information about herself and showing me all her favourite things and stuff she's passionate about. It was quite wholesome actually.

Shortly afterwards she asked if mind to wait while she takes a shower.

She gave me one of her favourite books to check out and I waited for her.

When she came back, with fresh clothes we chatted tons more and she opened up quite a lot, I gave her a light back massage since she had some pain and not long after we set off for our reservation. It was a really nice moment actually.

My guy friends are convinced something should have happened or she wanted to have sex, but I feel differently.

For me it feels more like she is comfortable with me and didn't mind to have me in her space.
Maybe even seeing if I'd try to push for sex or not, she's already expressed she doesn't like guys like that.

Did I miss something here, or is my line of thinking along the right lines?

Updates

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She opened up a bit more to me today and basically said her home is the only place she can really be herself. She struggles with social situations.

So for her to invite me is quite a big deal.

[NZGirl07]

I think your way of thinking is correct. It is not fair to assume that just because you are invited to a date's house that they want to have sex with you. As you said, she wanted to show you her things and let you learn more about her. Giving her a massage isn't in itself an indicator of her wanting more. If she has refused kisses she is very unlikely to want to go further so fast. You are being a gentleman with your way of thinking, take time to get to know her and ensure she is comfortable with everything. Physical contact will naturally come eventually, but obviously you both want more than a meaningless encounter with no strings attached.

[mandyfire98]

This almost seems like it went backwards from what I'm used to. Normally I'll go on the date and he he sees where I live, like enters my place that normally means he's getting something. If a guy massages me? He's getting some ass.

[Asker]

It was a strange way to do things for sure. She's definitely not oblivious but then again we are from different countries.

[mandyfire98]

Might just be different cultural things. I just know it's the reverse to me.

[Effably]

I would just assume she needed to grab or do something and you being invited along and welcomed rather than getting a "I'll catch up to you in a bit" is a sign of comfort and all.

If you ended up giving her a massage right after she showered? Look mate, I am not telling you it was meant to be more but it does sound like ideal conditions. Fresh. Comfortable. Hygenic A game. If it felt wholesome and not sexy just trust that instinct. Worst case she'll post here asking why guys can't take a hint.

[exitseven]

I think you handled this correctly. You do not want to push too much.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[slatyb]

She's going to want to have sex very soon. Of she invited you on again, I expect she will make that clear. Have you been snogging?

[Asker]

No kisses yet, I tried unsuccessfully, but plenty of hugs, hand holding and resting her head on me.

[slatyb]

Then I could be wrong about that. There will definitely be kissing before sex. That seems odd if she is anywhere near your age.

[Asker]

I guess I'll find out for sure when we meet again this week. She's been the one to set the pace so far and made it clear how far to go.

She's one year older than me, both in very late 20s.