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If sex and dating was completely not an option/impossible among all those involved and everyone just treated each other platonically, do you think boys and men would get along better with girls and women? I use "males and females" because I'm talking about both boys and girls, among men and women.

I'm a teacher and although I notice boys and girls almost always sit apart from each other (usually, all the boys on the left of the class, and all the girls on the right side), they still generally get along with each other and don't have any animosity or issues that modern adult men and women have. I've taught in three different academies here in Korea over the course of two years, and this remains consistent throughout every class, unless it's all boys or all girls. Although I think some subconscious things keep the boys and girls separated, they still can peacefully co-exist with each other in a way that modern men and women don't seem to do.

In short, boys and girls under the age of 14 seem to get along MUCH better than adult men and women do.

So it's really fascinating. I think sex and post-puberty changes how males and females interact with each other, and causes the sexes to find even less in common with each other and harder to relate. I myself certainly don't understand why women behave the way they do (often, negatively).

But what do you think?

I've noticed ever since my mid 20s that I get treated better & better with respect like I'm a brother/friend by most men I meet/know but I kind of get treated like an afterthought or an ineffectual by most women and that really upsets me for a variety of reasons.

With that being said I don't know which of those 2 I'd choose even though I'm closer to one more so than the other.

So what would you rather be (desired or respected) and why?
And which do you feel closer to at this point in your life?

One of the reasons men get so angry over the friendzone is not because we lost our opportunity to be more than friends. Rejection burns but that is just a fact of life for more most men. Dating is like being a door to door salesman to us. Its up to us to make it happen and if we get a no then we want to move on ASAP until we eventually hear a yes. The disinterested girl is now just a liability if we continue to waste our time and energy on her.

Anyway the real reason we get angry about the friendzone is we feel like our masculinity isn’t being respected. Respecting a man surely doesn’t mean dating him, having sex and/or getting a relationship. Its understanding his gamble he took a (likely uncomfortably) by approaching you. It’s now your turn to be forthcoming about where you stand. It need to be done sooner than later.

Confidently assuming he is going to be okay with being platonic friends when it’s plain as day he wants more is disrespectful, cowardly and selfish.

While I can understand that women are nervous that men won’t take rejection well in reality most guys can take in in stride. If they do get angry or rude than take that as confirmation you made the right choice.

No the truth is most women don’t want to lose out on the benefits of having the interested guy in their orbit (attention, favors, ego boost, someone to use against you really like, etc.). They also know that interested guy will likely do more for them vs someone who isn’t. This is especially true of if they see the guy is “nice” which women either consciously or subconsciously find feminine. Most of them have no idea how deeply insulting that attitude to vast majority of hetero men.

Anyway I haven’t been “friéndzoned” in a very long time but I’ve had women attempt that crap (including grown ass women in their 30s). The attempt itself is infuriating tbh (a woman past 30 should know better. I feel there should come a point in a woman’s life where she should understand male psychology better.