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Hanging out with couples when you're single can be very weird. Couples on the one hand are very happy and overly affectionate but on the other hand are very nosy and pushy. They are just so Happy not to be alone anymore that they want to show off their happiness and at the same time rub it in our single faces. The weird part comes after they calm down their sexual high. Suddenly you become this stray animal to them. They start looking at you with these weird eyes while trying to figure out why someone abandoned you. Then they proceed in a mission to find you a "home" that makes sense for them. When we really just need time to adjust to our new surroundings. We need stability not dependence.

A Single person to a Couple, who's just come down from the 3 to 6 month sex high, is a symbol of lost freedom and independence. A single person can come and go as they please. They don't have to compare schedules or check in all the time with someone who up until a few months ago were a complete stranger. Maybe best of all is the time to enjoy some peace and quiet to yourself without hurting someone's feelings by asking to be alone for a bit. I mean you love your partner but everyone needs a few hours to themselves to do nothing, to worry about nothing. Single people are a constant reminder of the cost of companionship, but only you can decide it's worth it.

So with all that in mind, Should Couples be allowed to hang out with Single People?

I work in a corporate nonprofit environment as a Case Manager. The previous Case Manager before me was promoted to be the Director of Activities. This man, with his flaming red hair, replaces the previous Director who was recently promoted to be Program Manager.

The Program Manager is a nice brunette woman. As a Case Manager I report directly to her. The Director of Activities is a superior and higher paying position than mine and he too reports to the Program Manager.

All of us are in our 30s. The Program Manager is a woman who is probably around 37 years old, the Director is a man who is probably around 35 years old. I am 31 years old. The other two Case Managers are in their 50s. Not only am I young for my position in the company, but I am the only Multi-Racial person compared to everyone else who is white.

I have been on the job for only about 1.5 months. Already, I have been getting rave compliments for my work from the Program Manager, the staff who report to me on clients, and from the Director of Activities who previously had my position.

The Director of Activities was strange today. For the first time he sat down offered me support if I needed it but said he trusted me if I said I didn't. (Some of the staff might have told the Program Manager that he wasn't as friendly to work with as me). Anyways, he all of a sudden starts asking me where I see myself in 5 years. He rambles about sometimes he doesn't like coming in for work. Says he misses his old position. Then says, "But I love what I do though.." Then he suggests he might move out west to be in the mountains. I tell him that sounds cool. Then out of nowhere He says, "What about you? Do you see yourself as running the department someday?" I play coy and say that I am not sure. I ask him, "What about you?" He says, he doesn't know either. I talk about him moving then he backtracks and says, "Well... I like living here. i have friends. I like my pension..."

What's his dealio?