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SLEEP as in “to sleep per chance to dream”

💤 ~sleep~ cuddle ~sleep ~no sex~ 💤

I’ve spoken with many people who find this very relaxing. But these people are not anxious for sex. I don't know how relaxing it is for the person who really badly wants sex.

Tho some may agree, it can be relaxing even if they want sex, as long as they know for sure sex is definitely not happening.

I’m sure some would agree while nursing a deep hope for more..

if I like someone I’d be ok sleeping next to them or I’d be very happy to depending …as long as I was absolutely assured they really weren’t expecting sex.

i can easily see this being exploited under false pretenses so I’d have to trust them a ton and tres carefully. I’d make sure my roommates are home for example..

I have never had anyone say they wanted to sleep next to me when what they really wanted to do was sleep. And I’ve never said this to an anyone bc I am confident the assumption will be that im speaking in code and sleep is just euphemism for sex.

my guess is despite my vast Herculean emoji efforts😛, many people will not read the body of this post and will assume fork the tiller that the person who doesn’t want to date wants friends with benefits to avoid having sex with someone they know.

I see gag immediately placed it in sexuality😒

It is like to live in a world where this kind of thing could be taken at face value.

actuality I think within the Amish community young people sleep next to each other as part of courtship. But courtship is a huge deal so that’s not a great example I suppose. Respect tho. I think it’s a good idea.

I think in dating people spend so much conscious energy existing themselves trying to be a certain way and present a certain way that much of our authentic self get swept away. While with Sleeping you are who you are… you can’t fake it. Your curations are exactly you. I think it’s a good bonding exercise bed very Informative. Or alternatively, just calming and peaceful.

I like I’m sure most of you see gimmicks constantly about how to get a partner keep a partner make a partner happy make sure they don’t stop loving you, blah, blah, blah blah blah blah blah. I think it’s all really overcomplicated.

in my opinion, If you’re good to yourself and good to your partner (something you can’t exactly prepare for or no until you get to know that person, specifically) and things still don’t work out it’s just not right.

A Partner like a friendship, fits into your life and when it doesn’t work despite your best intentions, it’s not the right fit. It’s strange to me to make sure they can make something work with the person they’ve never met. Because you can’t really know how to work things out with someone that doesn’t exist in your life yet.

I don’t think there’s a magic recipe. I don’t think there are truisms that span over billions of people exactly the same way. not beyond kindness…

And I’ve seen tons of relationships, where people went to all kinds of links to maintain a good relationship, and they followed all these rules and at the end of the day some worked some didn’t.

Trying to make something or lose yourself and that can cause the relationship to break apart if you came together because of who you are and who the other person is, and then one of you gets lost, that’s problematic.

Anyhow, I think the way that each person needs to be treated is Definitely context in case & person dependent. There’s no magic bullet. Except Kindness. But that’s true for any relation, not just partners.

I especially dislike people acting fake trying to impress the person And then you end up with someone that you’re not expecting at all. A disillusionment That is totally unnecessary and avoidable.