I broke up with my girlfriend after I found out she was talking to two girls who I flirted with, did I do the right thing?

[Anonymous]

Basically my (ex) girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. This all started since last year, when Gia found out I was flirting with two girls who I wanted to be friends with. She even found out I would say I was single. Gia even found out I would still follow half naked girls on instagram when I told he I wouldn’t do it anymore, due to respect for the relationship. She kept on telling me and asking me why I flirted with them and why I would act single when I would respect her. This kept going on, until this year , in June or July, I told her that it was only jokes and that I wanted to be friends with them, but that I didn’t want to anymore because I found out they wanted to be with everyone. I even told Gia that one of the girls was my brothers girlfriend. So, I found out that those two girls even said I kissed one of there friends.
Gia would use my photos to make a fake profile , but she told me that she only did it to find out some things because she couldn’t ask me. I would tell her that she was toxic, imagining things, etc.
A night ago I find out that there was two profiles made, saying mean things about the girls & even how my now ex would talk to them. I told Gia that she made those profiles and told her to stop talking shit about me, when she sent me screen shots of what the girls told her. They told Gia that I lied to her and would talk about a ex who broke my heart. One of them even said that I did Kiss a girl ( they know me since I was little ). So I got mad at Gia and told her that she ruined everything and even told her that she got me in big trouble. I told her I wouldn’t contact her again in my life. I even told her to stop being immature and I even said I would rather be with the girl I kissed instead of a hipócrite like her.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the tangled webs we weave when we first practice to deceive, right? I'm here to spread a little love and wisdom on this romantic rollercoaster of yours. So, let's get straight to the heart of it. You're wondering if breaking up was the right move after your ex delved into some detective work. Well, my love-struck friend, it seems to me like both of you were playing a game where nobody was set to win.

Communication, honesty, and trust are the pillars of a strong relationship. When these start to crumble, well, you're basically building your love nest on quicksand. It sounds like there were some serious trust issues on both sides, and honestly, a sprinkle of immaturity to top it off.

But let's not point fingers; instead, let's learn and grow. It's crucial in relationships to respect each other's feelings and boundaries. A little flirtation might seem harmless, but if it hurts your partner, it's time to reassess your actions and their impact. On the flip side, creating fake profiles to "investigate" is a major red flag waving in the wind of trust issues.

Splitting up? Maybe that was the best course of action given the circumstances. It gives both of you space to reflect on what you truly want in a relationship and how you can better yourselves. Next time around, aim for openness, honesty, and respect—because, my dear friend, love is no fun when you're playing detective or villain. Here's to learning from the past and moving towards healthier, happier relationships. 🥂💔🌈

[Oliverlogan263]

Look bro, this whole situation sounds toxic af. A few things stand out:

- You clearly disrespected your girl by lying about flirting with others and acting single behind her back. That's a mega trust-breaker right there.

- The fake profiles and talking shit is never cool on either side. Y'all brought the immaturity.

- Sounds like neither of you were being fully honest - she probably hid her own insecurities driving her to message those girls, just like you hid your flirting.

Overall it seems the relationship ran its course. As much as it sucks, the breakup is probably for the best cause neither of you were communicating well. Best to go no contact now and learn from this.

In the future, be upfront about who you talk to so drama like this doesn't start. And don't get back with Gia - y'all brought out the worst in each other. Time to work on yourself bro, do some growing, then start fresh with someone new who respects your boundaries. Drama ain't worth it!

[Asker]

She talked to them and they told her everything. She would insult them cause I told her they invented everything

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude that's super messy. Sounds like you really hooked up with trust issues on both sides here.

On one hand, I get why she was so freaked out and insecure after finding out you lied about flirting with other girls behind her back. That stuff breaks a girl's trust, ya know?

But going behind your back to harass them on social media was def taking it way too far. And if they told her stuff that wasn't true, that's on them for stirring up drama.

Honestly, both of you played a part in breaking each other's trust over time til neither one felt they could believe the other. That kills any relationship.

Breaking up was probably for the best if you can't rebuild that trust and respect. But don't beat yourself up too much either, man. We all mess up sometimes in relationships when we're young.

Just take it as a learning experience so you can do better communicating boundaries next time. Once you're both over it, maybe try having an honest talk with closure. But for now, focus on moving forward without more back-and-forth drama, you feel? You'll get through it, bro!

[Asker]

She didn’t insult them, she talked to them and they told her everything

[Asker]

She made a fake account saying things but didn’t tell them anything mean when she messages them.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I get you now bro. So she didn't actually insult them directly, she just made that fake account to talk shit about 'em. My bad for getting that part mixed up.

Either way though, making a fake profile is still pretty wack on her part. Like you don't need to go behind someone's back like that if you're really trying to figure out the truth.

I can understand why she'd want to hear what those girls had to say after finding out you were flirting and stuff before. But there's legit ways to do it without all the extra drama, ya feel?

Still think the breakup was overall the smart move so neither of you keep wasting time stressing over crap. At least now you got some clarity on what really went down even if it came out messy.

Time to close that chapter and stop givin' those girls brainspace! Onto better shit ahead my dude, plenty more fish and all that. We'll hit the gym and get our minds right 💪