It was your birthday? And all you wanted was a cake? And she burnt it and didn't care that she ruined the only gift you wanted? Damn she's messed up! I love making cakes. They're always fluffy, warm, and delicious. I have never burnt one but if I didn't especially on a really important date, I would probably cry.
Let’s get real. I’m guessing you have both had problems for a while?
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u I understand why you broke up with her. In fact, I wonder if she did that on purpose. Maybe she WANTED you to break up with her.
You both seem very immature. Breaking up with someone over a cake is silly, you can easily go buy a new one from the shop and it’s all sorted. If you felt, for whatever reason, insecure about her response you should have communicated that with her and asked if you guys could go get a new cake. That’s healthy and normal.
Her response was very immature and uncaring. She looks stupid too. So basically you guys need to grow up a bit, learn to communicate and have healthy relationships. You guys were never gonna last if it could end over something that petty.
This is an awsome post, thanks for sharing.
Do you know how many relationships break up over stuff like this? The problem is communication, feelings, expectations... communication. It's also beliefs.
The answer is no. You should have backed off a bit and come back at this issue at a new angle to understand what each other is saying and find a healthier way to deal with this, because this is going to happen over and over in life... issues turnup.
You have some development to do on yourself as does she. Her, it's her choice. She's showing some personality here and you have to pay attention to that. If you really want someone with empathy, that cries and has negativity, you have to choose someone else. But when you do that, you just realize how moody that person is going to be... you might just value this girlfriend for how she doesn't get stuck in negativity.
Maybe you lost your mom? There's real life and psychology under this mess of mis understanding
At first I was thinking you were overreacting, but the way she reacted after the fact said everything about her that I needed to know. Also, if you specifically said you wanted something free, a cake, for your birthday, and she brushed it off like that, then you weren't wrong for being upset about how nonchalant she was about it and your wants. Women like that are abundant unfortunately. Most women are taught that only what they want matters, so you have to smarter the next time around and choose women that genuinely care about your needs and wants as well. She never liked you, you're better off. Women that actually like you will care about seeing you happy, especially on your birthday.
Honestly, I think you're in the right. It's heartbreaking to deal with someone who sees the things you care about and doesn't bother to put them into a similar priority. Yes, it makes sense that she might not be all that concerned about the cake itself, but if she didn't even make an effort to help you take care of this thing that you wanted, it's a sign of a lot of other problems in the relationship anyway. I imagine this was just the straw that broke the camel's back. You're in the right as far as I'm concerned.
You have your reasons for breaking up with her, and that’s OK. Nobody can rebuke you for dumping her when she rightfully deserves it.
The texts only make her seem like a jerk. Those numerous clown emojis and name calling goes on to show how unhinged she is.
I have a question though; for how long have you been thinking about ending this relationship with her? Are there any other examples that make you feel like she did not care much about you?
I think the greivance is legitimate but you aren't supposed to get mad about things like this you are supposed to communicate your thoughts and feelings in a calm and reasonable manner (you do infact achieve this in the text, albeit too late but you were presumably all kinds of assholes and motherfuckers to begin with when hulk get angy and smash fings)
Accidents happen you need to be able to cope when life isn't smooth sailing because shit happens all the time.
Why can't you just make another cake or get a store bought cake?
Worst case scenario you have to shit can the idea of having cake on your birthday because its not possible anymore and you have cake tomorrow instead.
You could have dealt with the situation like a competant human but instead what you did was get angry and assign blame to someone who isn't you because thats easier and feels nicer.
Whoa what a situation. Breaking up over a cake is stupid, but the undelying problem was legit. She didn't care about your BD is what seem like. She could have reacted like a good girlfriend who cares about you. But if everything else was good in the relationship it was an overreaction in my opinion
It seems to me that you're in the right here. It's the little things that can reveal a lot about a person. She seems a bit sociopathic. Normally, especially a girl would feel bad for failing the one things she was supposed to do for your birthday and not just brush it off lightly. It seems she's not willing to admit or feel bad about her mistakes. Also threatening to publicly shame you is a huge red flag.
Wow, all I can say is that she is so lucky that you dumped her.
Now she can find someone that will treat her with respect.
Why didn't you make your own cake?
Stuff happens, it's a cake, get over it, but now that you are single you will all the time in the world to bake your own cake, or maybe try to learn how to bake one.
Your ex is a bitch.
Glad you stood up for yourself. Most guys would have just let her keep doing things worse and worse.
There was probably a better way but I'm guessing this wasn't a problem that just popped up out of nowhere.
At least you did yourself a favor.
Clearly you didn’t love her if you were able to toss her away over something so meaningless.
Did her a favor too.
she's ridiculous. I get what you mean about her not caring. Her name-calling is showing her true colors. Its definitely about more than a cake and she's rude af. Good riddance
It is a cake. She cared enough to bake you a cake and it got burned. She meant well, you should have been happy about that. You should apologize and beg her to take you back. Don;t get your hopes up though.
Dude, my wife caught our kitchen on fire three times. Its why i cook exclusively for the past 9 years.
By your logic i shoudlve run for the hills a long time ago.
Seems pretty childish on both parts, you in particular. I can understand being pissed off, but if you’re willing to dump her over a cake you obviously don’t give a rats ass about her anyway so you’re doing her a favour
The convo makes it pretty clear that neither of you really cares about the other, so you're both better off apart.
Yes, you are overreacting. You broke up with because she burned a cake? Like you've never made a mistake?
After reading that text absolutely not.
She sounds toxic af
You dodged a bullet
u That’s ridiculous. I hope you’re kidding. You don’t break up over that
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