Do you think I was in the wrong for breaking up with my girlfriend here?

[Anonymous]

She burnt my cake. It was not edible at all. I didn’t get mad over that. I got mad that she didn’t care about burning it. She forgot about it in the oven. That isn’t the actually cake but just so you have an idea of how bad it was burnt.

[Anonymous]

It was your birthday? And all you wanted was a cake? And she burnt it and didn't care that she ruined the only gift you wanted? Damn she's messed up! I love making cakes. They're always fluffy, warm, and delicious. I have never burnt one but if I didn't especially on a really important date, I would probably cry.

[Opinion Owner]

"* if I did especially on a really important date, I would probably cry.

[dustybiker]

Let’s get real. I’m guessing you have both had problems for a while?

[dustybiker]

Thanks for mho.

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand why you broke up with her. In fact, I wonder if she did that on purpose. Maybe she WANTED you to break up with her.

[Graci_e]

You both seem very immature. Breaking up with someone over a cake is silly, you can easily go buy a new one from the shop and it’s all sorted. If you felt, for whatever reason, insecure about her response you should have communicated that with her and asked if you guys could go get a new cake. That’s healthy and normal.

Her response was very immature and uncaring. She looks stupid too. So basically you guys need to grow up a bit, learn to communicate and have healthy relationships. You guys were never gonna last if it could end over something that petty.

[Graci_e]

Also just to add - I’m 16 and my boyfriends 14, we can communicate better than that 🤣

[PinkRose24]

He told her that was the only gift he wanted. She didn't give a crap. Stop giving excuses to shitty people.

[WonderBell99]

I sympathize with the Asker. Though I agree with what you’re saying, I’m not sure if the Asker is the one that needs to “grow up”. As he’s pointed out repeatedly, the problem is not about her forgetting to take the cake out of the oven, it’s her not caring about it and not even feeling any sort of remorse for what she did.

Based on her replies, she seemed a bit psychotic over him not attending her phone calls. Not only that, she also referred to him as a “dumbass” and proceeded to send numerous clown emojis mocking him. Definitely immature behavior on her part. Seems like this was not the only issue in their relationship.

[lightbulb27]

This is an awsome post, thanks for sharing.

Do you know how many relationships break up over stuff like this? The problem is communication, feelings, expectations... communication. It's also beliefs.

The answer is no. You should have backed off a bit and come back at this issue at a new angle to understand what each other is saying and find a healthier way to deal with this, because this is going to happen over and over in life... issues turnup.

You have some development to do on yourself as does she. Her, it's her choice. She's showing some personality here and you have to pay attention to that. If you really want someone with empathy, that cries and has negativity, you have to choose someone else. But when you do that, you just realize how moody that person is going to be... you might just value this girlfriend for how she doesn't get stuck in negativity.

Maybe you lost your mom? There's real life and psychology under this mess of mis understanding

[PinkRose24]

Dude she straight out didn't give a fuck that that's the only gift he wanted

[lightbulb27]

@PinkRose24 He picked that girlfriend! That's her reaction and personality he has to work with, or not. People rub each other wrong until they figure out each other and how to communicate and respond. Dudette... she made a cake for him! Part of the issue is her, part is him... like all relationships. Why it went bad is another matter...

[Pegases]

At first I was thinking you were overreacting, but the way she reacted after the fact said everything about her that I needed to know. Also, if you specifically said you wanted something free, a cake, for your birthday, and she brushed it off like that, then you weren't wrong for being upset about how nonchalant she was about it and your wants. Women like that are abundant unfortunately. Most women are taught that only what they want matters, so you have to smarter the next time around and choose women that genuinely care about your needs and wants as well. She never liked you, you're better off. Women that actually like you will care about seeing you happy, especially on your birthday.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Honestly, I think you're in the right. It's heartbreaking to deal with someone who sees the things you care about and doesn't bother to put them into a similar priority. Yes, it makes sense that she might not be all that concerned about the cake itself, but if she didn't even make an effort to help you take care of this thing that you wanted, it's a sign of a lot of other problems in the relationship anyway. I imagine this was just the straw that broke the camel's back. You're in the right as far as I'm concerned.

[WonderBell99]

You have your reasons for breaking up with her, and that’s OK. Nobody can rebuke you for dumping her when she rightfully deserves it.

The texts only make her seem like a jerk. Those numerous clown emojis and name calling goes on to show how unhinged she is.

I have a question though; for how long have you been thinking about ending this relationship with her? Are there any other examples that make you feel like she did not care much about you?

[Anonymous]

I think the greivance is legitimate but you aren't supposed to get mad about things like this you are supposed to communicate your thoughts and feelings in a calm and reasonable manner (you do infact achieve this in the text, albeit too late but you were presumably all kinds of assholes and motherfuckers to begin with when hulk get angy and smash fings)

Accidents happen you need to be able to cope when life isn't smooth sailing because shit happens all the time.

Why can't you just make another cake or get a store bought cake?

Worst case scenario you have to shit can the idea of having cake on your birthday because its not possible anymore and you have cake tomorrow instead.

You could have dealt with the situation like a competant human but instead what you did was get angry and assign blame to someone who isn't you because thats easier and feels nicer.

[PinkRose24]

He told her that was the only gift he wanted. She seems not to give a crap and didn't give a crap about his feelings. He dodged a bullet.

[Opinion Owner]

@PinkRose24 Right, but he also quote 'got mad' about it, we don't have the text record for that part but I'm speculating that it is less coherant than the text messages.

[Catarine]

Whoa what a situation. Breaking up over a cake is stupid, but the undelying problem was legit. She didn't care about your BD is what seem like. She could have reacted like a good girlfriend who cares about you. But if everything else was good in the relationship it was an overreaction in my opinion

[Soremain]

It seems to me that you're in the right here. It's the little things that can reveal a lot about a person. She seems a bit sociopathic. Normally, especially a girl would feel bad for failing the one things she was supposed to do for your birthday and not just brush it off lightly. It seems she's not willing to admit or feel bad about her mistakes. Also threatening to publicly shame you is a huge red flag.

[Fireguy17]

Wow, all I can say is that she is so lucky that you dumped her.
Now she can find someone that will treat her with respect.
Why didn't you make your own cake?
Stuff happens, it's a cake, get over it, but now that you are single you will all the time in the world to bake your own cake, or maybe try to learn how to bake one.

[PinkRose24]

She didn't care that she burned it and didn't care that that's the only gift he asked for. And people don't bake their own cake on their birthdays. maybe you do since you're lonely.

[Fireguy17]

Wow, you just don't have a clue.
Being upset because a cake burned changes nothing.
It won't unburn the cake.
At least she tried.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Your ex is a bitch.

Glad you stood up for yourself. Most guys would have just let her keep doing things worse and worse.

There was probably a better way but I'm guessing this wasn't a problem that just popped up out of nowhere.

[NotTacocaT6969]

At least you did yourself a favor.


Clearly you didn’t love her if you were able to toss her away over something so meaningless.


Did her a favor too.

[PinkRose24]

So his birthday cake is meaningless? Wow you're just as bad as her.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Yes. His birthday cake is meaningless.

The fact that she even tried to make him one was all that mattered.

Now he’s single over a simple mess up that could’ve been fixed by one trip to the store.

[PinkRose24]

She just made it to shut him up apparently. She gross just like you. Lol you sound like a crazy feminist 😂

[NotTacocaT6969]

I’m literally the opposite of a feminist.

I fucking despise the majority of women and tend to side with men on most subjects.

Making a big deal over a cake is something a 10 year old might do, but not an adult.

Now he gets to go back to jerking off every night because of a burnt cake. 🙃

[Asker]

It literally wasn’t about the cake. She didn’t care about burning it and had this reaction of being a b word.

[NotTacocaT6969]

When you’re 30 and nobody so much as sends you happy birthday messages anymore, you’ll realize how petty you were about the cake incident.

Neither the cake nor her inability to care about something as insignificant as cake were a big deal.

You made it a big deal mr drama queen.

Find yourself a woman who’d be willing to kill or die to protect your birthday cake.

[Asker]

Why are you wishing or assuming me to be sad and lonely when I’m 30?

[NotTacocaT6969]

I’m wishing for you to be sad and lonely because you ended a relationship over how your partner felt about the importance of birthday cake.

This is the only reason for the breakup that you have provided.

No history of fights, cheating or mistreatment to speak of…just not caring about a cake was your reason.

This paints you to be hollow on the inside or in other words incapable of love snd understanding.

[Asker]

Even if that were to be true, people can still improve and learn from their mistakes. She was short tempered and controlling. She tried to force me to stay with her because of this. That’s manipulation and controlling.

[DizzyDesii]

she's ridiculous. I get what you mean about her not caring. Her name-calling is showing her true colors. Its definitely about more than a cake and she's rude af. Good riddance

[DizzyDesii]

Its not just “some cake”. Its your birthday and she couldve suggested an alternative but instead she showed that she didn't care. She basically baked the cake to shut u up and probably let it burn out of spite. You did nothing wrong here. She might think you were whining but her text shows how horrible of a future wife she wouldve been. Pay her dust

[DizzyDesii]

Happy belated birthday by the way 🙏

[loveslongnails]

She's not simply rude, she's stupid, and I still think they're both 12 years old.

[DizzyDesii]

@loveslongnails He tried to communicate that he was bothered and she barely gave him room to explain why. So i’d say he is definitely more mature than her. At the same time, the conversation is cut. I want to see how the breakup came about

[loveslongnails]

I agree he's a lot more reasonable and mature. She just went off on him like a feeble minded bitch, which it sounds very much like she is!

[exitseven]

It is a cake. She cared enough to bake you a cake and it got burned. She meant well, you should have been happy about that. You should apologize and beg her to take you back. Don;t get your hopes up though.

[PinkRose24]

Nah she's a bitch

[mobiusforniner]

Dude, my wife caught our kitchen on fire three times. Its why i cook exclusively for the past 9 years.

By your logic i shoudlve run for the hills a long time ago.

[Redstang88]

Seems pretty childish on both parts, you in particular. I can understand being pissed off, but if you’re willing to dump her over a cake you obviously don’t give a rats ass about her anyway so you’re doing her a favour

[LiamJHayden]

The convo makes it pretty clear that neither of you really cares about the other, so you're both better off apart.

[Redstang88]

Bingo

[Stevefiveo]

Yes, you are overreacting. You broke up with because she burned a cake? Like you've never made a mistake?

[LimitedBenefits101]

After reading that text absolutely not.

She sounds toxic af

You dodged a bullet

[Iron_Man]

That’s ridiculous. I hope you’re kidding. You don’t break up over that

[Keishio]

You both seem unhinged. That either means a disaster relationship or you're made for each other

[Anonymous]

I can smell her toxicity just from her dialogs alone. You dodged a bullet. I advise you to not receive her calls and block her.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this bitch needs to come correct. You should have beat her ass with the burned cake pan.

[spartan55]

Dude, you are a moron.

[PinkRose24]

Nobody makes you cakes, huh?

[spartan55]

Uh, yeah I've had cakes made for me before... what point are you trying to make?

[SnowedIn]

Yes. You overreacted and were wrong. smh.

[KrakenAttackin]

He should have tuned her up.

[SnowedIn]

@KrakenAttackin ... he should have baked the damn cake himself.

[loveslongnails]

How old are you both - 12?

[Akam93]

Your overeacting. Lol

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you both kinda suck.