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Hey guys so me and my boyfriend have been getting into a lot of arguments over it recently and neither of us are willing to compromise so I want to know opinions.

I follow other guys on Instagram, I know them from school and extra curricular and we don’t interact with each others post and only message to ask questions about performance and midterm dates, study guides and homework or missed classes or extracurricular (I’m in a group where we do singing and dancing and we catch eachother up on choreography for anyone who’s missed. Almost all of these chats are group chats with multiple women and men. None of them have my phone number or my Snapchat as that feels like a different level, and no one has yet (I have my boyfriend posted and always make it pretty clear from the get go I have a boyfriend like if I meet people in class and it’s a group and someone’s like “what’s everyone doing after? Anyone down to grab lunch?” I’ll respond with “sorry, I really miss my boyfriend so I think I’m just going to head home for today”) but if anyone did make a flirtatious or suggestive comment my immediate response would be to block them and probably say something along the lines of “not cool… you know I have a boyfriend so fuck right off”, even being in group chats together if someone crossed that line I genuinely wouldn’t care about the missed opportunities for school work and info because it’s a broken boundary and I would find someone else in class or another group who would be more respectful.

to him, he still feels like it’s disrespectful and that no guy would be okay with this. To me, I feel like it’s controlling and while if he specifically said to unadd anyone specifically I would, not being able to add any feels like too much and if we don’t come to a conclusion now what’s it going to look like in the future? If our kids go out with a friend and their dad can I not get his number to check on my kids? What about getting coworkers contacts to switch shifts?

i've been thinking about this question lowkeyly since shortly after trump was reelected, since that's when i really noticed the manosphere & the heritage foundation's agendy and all the other 'good' stuff. i feel like at this point most guys my age are at least somewhat contaminated with manosphere or alt right talking points (i even personally know guys that are kneck deep into that shit) which is really scary to think about. it's pretty concerning namely because i definitely don't want to risk accidently dating or worse, marrying & having kids, with a genuine misogynist who worships fresh&fit and nick fuentes. especially if you factor in potential rolling back of no fault divorce, birth control, etc. a lot of those dudes pretend to be normal or downplay what they are, so it's often hard to know, especially in the beginning. even if you get with a normal dude, there's a big risk his algorithm eventually ends up brainwashing him. even if these guys don't end up on the farther end of the spectrum, they still end up with ideas and attitudes about women that feel remniscent of the 80s, and that's pretty terrible already.

now about the question, i know that this touches every age bracket but it's heavily concentrated on gen z dudes and younger. i'm in my mid twenties (the age of my profile is muchhh older, thought it was slightly funny when i created my account years ago) for reference. i'm really most attracted to guys my age, never been that much of a daddy appreciator or anything, but i think it could maybe be more wise potentially? to date older at this point. i feel like millenials are much less contaminated by this type of stuff, or am i wrong? (atm that refers to 30-40yos). could maybe consider younger gen x (like 45-50something yos), though i'm typically not very physically attracted to men those ages and there's the risk that if they're willing to date a woman in her mid 20s it could mean bad things about their real beliefs and attitutes to women.