Do you think I might have ruined my chances of ever finding love?

[Anonymous]

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Excuse me if my grammar is a bit off, English is not my home language, it's a language i picked up from watching tv and in school lol.

I'm worried that I might never know what it's like to be loved and chosen by a woman or know what it's like to be a father because of the choices I made in my late teens and 20's which is to hurt myself , I don't want to elaborate too much but I have visible self harm scars on my arm, my left upper and lower leg, my chest and left shoulder, I have tried products like bio oil but those scars are not disappearing.

I'm 29 and I only stopped hurting myself in 2024, I didn't get professional help (I'm a man this is not something I can talk about , i have to deal with it alone). I just told myself I'm gonna stop so i did, i would be lying if i said that i don't get the urges to do it when something is bothering me but i just try to control myself and not do it

And it's not like I've never had any chances with women, I had, but the thing is I'm too damaged and they might leave if they knew this side of me and tattoos is not something I want on my body

[jennifer_bloom]

When I get scars from preparing food in the kitchen, I find joyful meditation and relaxation meditation boosts the speed in which my scars heal. It’s why I do lovingkindness meditation to help me fall asleep if I’m not immediately asleep as soon as I lie down. I believe meditation also keeps your skin looking younger and can delay or reverse light signs of aging. It might be why intelligent people tend to look younger than their same age peers after middle age, their job requires constant meditation and logical processing. I know people who are so anxious, they can’t even have plants in the home, because the plants pick up their nervous vibration and die on contact. If your anxiety can make plants die, it can also make you die. If your peace can make the pets around you live longer, it can also make you live longer.

[bobalife]

Hey, everything will be okay ❤️‍🩹 you did not ruined anything…. You were hurt or going through a lot in a period of time. How could anyone ever love you less for being hurt? The right person will understand and still love you. I hope you’ve found a place of comfort, self-love and forgiveness, and healing with yourself :)

[bobalife]

PS it’s more than okay to seek extra support with professionals rather individual therapy or support groups.

[MikeMcMansion]

Bro…sorry to hear this. You need to go to a religious men’s group, like a prayer group. I could say you should lift weights with proper technique because the muscles will hurt even if you lift correctly, just lift to hypertrophy (not too heavy, just to failure with high repetitions). Don’t worry about the scars, scars are fine on men.

[Zack-Bann]

You’re good


Scars aren’t as repulsive as you think they are


They tell your story


You’re still here despite them


That’s what matters


You should be fine. Don’t give up