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People are only faithful to their partner, because they don't have a choice otherwise or feel compelled to by their upbringing. The options are typically "get one person and sleep with them" or "stay single and sexually frustrated". Some people can sleep with whoever they want without needing commitment, but most cannot. Monogamy is a sort of a "necessary evil", not an intrinsically "desirable outcome".

“But it’s good for children”, you might retort, “having parents’ partners go in and out of their lives is bad for their development” and that is the only time, where monogamy becomes relevant. Imagine, if you will, that the population is rendered immortal and/or never ages. Reproduction is now immaterial, because you have an indefinite lifespan. Changes the equation quite a bit, doesn’t it? If there’s no need for children, but the urge to f*ck is still there, why not pursue it completely and relentlessly? Enjoy pure pleasure, as much as possible, without restraint or complication—granted, we’d have to eliminate all STIs, but I digress.

All of which is to say, if every person alive could enjoy an entire population of their choosing, having sex with as many different people as often as they desired, vs settling down with just the one, why would anyone choose the latter over the former? Nobody would limit themselves, if they didn't have to. Monogamy is forced upon people.

Do you agree with this idea? Why or why not?

I'm not picking an MHO for this question. If one is picked, it was done automatically. I value everyone's answer on this one and am hoping to learn from your stories. Not sure where this question belongs so I'm going with the first suggestion GaG gives me. If I get it wrong, that is GaG's fault, not mine. I don't think a proper category exists on this site for this type of question.

Think back on where you were in life 10-15 years ago and compare to where you are now.

Did you achieve the dreams you had for yourself back then/are still pursuing them? If not, did you give up? Or did your priorities simply change the dreams you had? If you achieved those dreams, are you happy? If you did not, do you regret not achieving those dreams or are you glad life changed directions?

Are you happy with where you are now?

Do you miss how things were back then?

Are you still close friends with anyone from that time period?

What good changes have come over you?

What bad changes have come over you?

What would you change?

What would you do again?

Finally, the question of love. Did you and your high school sweetheart make it all the way? If not, have you found the love of your life? Or are you happy remaining single?

I'd love to hear everyone's journeys from that point in time until now. Feel free to go beyond the questions I've asked.