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Signs your waitress is REALLY flirting with you and some she’s not

Signs your waitress is REALLY flirting with you and some she’s not

I’ve been seeing a lot of questions surrounding service and retail staff. So does she really like me? Is she fake flirting for tips? Or is she simply being professionally friendly? All good questions because for some it can be hard to tell. Some waitresses may like you but professionally can not be too flirty as for other places waitresses may flirt for tips nothing more.

As we know retail workers and service workers usually HAVE to be nice not only do their tips count on it. But their jobs as well such as some men come creep out the female employees then complain that they were rude therefore they get into trouble (this happens more then you may think) so sometimes they may be over the top nice.

So let’s look as the signs shall we? Please also keep in mind the fact everyone is different so account for all the signs. Depends on what they can’t and can get away with as well as just the individual. Seeing one sign doesn’t mean someone’s interested and at the same time missing one doesn’t mean she’s not.

Long and/or deep touches

As for most people touching someone you don’t really like for a long period of time or being touched by someone you don’t much care for gets uncomfortable fast. So notice if your waitress is touching you… Is it short light taps or hits? Or is she putting her hand on your shoulder and leaving it there or your back. That’s a pretty good indicator that she feels at minimum comfortably around you and at best she probably has some level of attraction… If you’re hoping for that.

How she treats you

Observe the way she’s treating other customers. If you’re not a super high tipper but you feel like you’re the star of the show and are being treated like royalty. This is a good indicator. Maybe you even get free stuff on the house without a reason. If you notice she’s extremely attentive this is a good indicator.

She gets close to you or even “accidentally” bumps you a lot

Accidentally bumping past someone happens occasionally once happening isn’t a big deal but if it keeps happening. Also notice her space much like the touch one someone whose not really interested will probably not be standing in your business before they feel uncomfortable they will probably be a good bit away from you. Even if fake flirting you will see her standing a decent distance from you. On the other side of the table or a couple feet from you.

She indicates she’s single or even gives you her number

This is the biggest one. For most women they aren’t going to give their number to a creep. They can fake flirt all day long they aren’t giving their number out to someone they don’t feel attracted to. Maybe there’s some crazy (or dumb) enough to do so. But they know. Also saying she’s single again most people who aren’t genuinely interested aren’t going to open that door.

The way she talks to you

Does conversation seem easy and genuine. Not too forced or basic. Now if it’s not super busy some people will casually chat simply to pass the time. But what’s she talking about? If she seems genuinely curious and interested about you as well as telling things about herself. This is a good sign. Maybe she just thinks you’re a cool person but depending on what she’s saying and how she’s talking maybe she does like you. Especially eye contact.

Genuine complements

Could be fake flirting or simply being nice and professional. But if it’s something personal not just a basic cliché there’s a chance she really means it. Especially if it’s not over the top. Saying you have nice eyes or she likes your outfit among other things are pretty good indicators. Maybe even your mannerisms whatever.
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Now that we covered the basis. Let’s get into signs of FAKE flirting and that she’s NOT genuinely interested but instead trying to get tips. Buckle up because some y’all may not want to know the truth. Again, case by case basis. If you really like her shoot your shot never know unless you try.

Over the top

The way she’s acting seems forced and over the top. Fake laughs. Smiles. Exaggerated tones of voice are indicators that it’s all a act. Acting too over the top is a really good sign that she’s not really that interested in you

Too many words like honey, babe, etc

These words used too often is a good indicator that it’s just become a habit using these words to generate more tips. If you hear these words chances are she’s not really that interested in you especially if you’re seeing none of the other signs really. I would say it’s a negative sign more then a good one.

You are treated just like everyone else

If you think you’re being treated special observe the way she’s treating other customers. If you notice they’re being treated the same way, talked to the same way, and everything else. To her you’re probably just another customer sorry to burst your bubble.

She talks over her husband or boyfriend

Even if she happened to be attracted don’t pursue this for obvious reasons. But many people indicate they are taken to show someone that they are off the market. Even if she’s fake flirting but you ask for her number and she says she has a husband. Maybe she just randomly tells some story of her significant other good indicator that she’s not interested or she wouldn’t be advertising she’s taken.

Light touches or none

If you notice that when she touches you if she ever does it’s light and brief. Take it as a grain of salt because it may be fake flirting or simply a friendly gesture. Some people also just touch as a means of communicating. Long touches are another story but short forget about it.

She stands far away from you

Even if she’s fake flirting she stands at a distance. Maybe at the other side of the table or at least away from you. She’s not standing next to you. That’s a good sign that she really doesn’t want to be close to you and maybe feels uncomfortable by you.

Signs your waitress is REALLY flirting with you and some she’s not
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