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For context, we met up for first time from app yesterday & had two calls earlier this week. I was questioning if he was interested to begin with bc with the calls earlier this week, he’s the one that ended them in less than 30 min. And yesterday, he ended the dinner too because he “knew I had somewhere to go & didn’t want to hold me back” (told him I had to go out of town with family & would need to leave in the night). I haven’t heard from him since, he drove 45 min to meet me at a local restaurant, paid for the bill, walked me to my car & hugged me twice (in my opinion all common courtesy). He asked most of the questions, by now I’m just used to the guy reaching out maybe an hr after meeting up telling me they want to see me again or at least wanting to make sure I got home safely. I deleted the app yesterday but still have him on discord, he shared his # when we spoke on the phone earlier this week but I hid mine for safety reasons. Honestly I’m not interested in seeing him again, I just hate rejection. Also when we were msging earlier on, we didn’t talk consistently throughout the day like I’m used to with other people I’d speak with before. I’ve become lower effort in that sense bc I’m not as invested but if a guy is interested he’d pursue. Last thing I’ll add is he asked me maybe 2-3x if I had new years plans & kept telling him not sure yet/might do something with family. I can’t anymore 🙄. I’m giving it a week & if I don’t hear back from him, I’m deleting him from discord.

For context, we met up for first time from app yesterday & had two calls earlier this week. I was questioning if he was interested to begin with bc with the calls earlier this week, he’s the one that ended them in less than 30 min. And yesterday, he ended the dinner too because he “knew I had somewhere to go & didn’t want to hold me back” (told him I had to go out of town with family & would need to leave in the night). I haven’t heard from him since, he drove 45 min to meet me at a local restaurant, paid for the bill, walked me to my car & hugged me twice (in my opinion all common courtesy). He asked most of the questions, by now I’m just used to the guy reaching out maybe an hr after meeting up telling me they want to see me again or at least wanting to make sure I got home safely. I deleted the app yesterday but still have him on discord, he shared his # when we spoke on the phone earlier this week but I hid mine for safety reasons. Honestly I’m not interested in seeing him again, I just hate rejection. Also when we were msging earlier on, we didn’t talk consistently throughout the day like I’m used to with other people I’d speak with in the past. I’ve become lower effort in that sense bc I’m not as invested but if a guy is interested he’d pursue. Last thing I’ll add is he asked me maybe 2-3x if I had new years plans & kept telling him not sure yet/might do something with family. I can’t anymore 🙄. I’m giving it a week & if I don’t hear back from him, I’m deleting him from discord.

It has happened to me once and to my 2 female friends. We were 16 year-olds at the time but he was mature for his age. I actually did fell in love with him for both his looks and other traits such as a good, family-oriented boy, he was kind to others and liked reading and liked animals. He thanked me, said he felt flattered but wasn't interest in a romantic relationship, though we can be friends. I could tell he had a hard time saying all that.

If he would've rejected me harshly, called me bad names, acted grossed out or made a scene out of it, yeah I would've hated him forever or probably had self-esteem issues. It still hurt but much less than if he had been rude. We're still friends till this day and both of us dated others.

This happens to guys too. Who do you think gets hurts the most? The man or the woman?