Marriage & Weddings

My Stance On Marriage

My Stance On Marriage

MARRIAGE IS A SHAM

I'd try to be as positive and cheery as possible. But if you've clicked on this, I'm given to assume deep down even you agree with my stance.

I'd keep politics out of this, since relationships are complex just the way they are without the extra weightage. So!

1. Pressure To Have Kids

It's suffocating, whether you like kids or not is irrelevant! In India, elders use their old age card to get the ball rolling. I think it's less atrocious in the west but I can't say for sure, I've never been there myself.

Couples are given no time or space to be mentally and financially prepared for family expansion, or whatever you guys call it. It is what it is.

Reproductive sex is emphasized, especially in large families, so they can have more members of their own line, and suddenly everyone becomes royalty or something. Intimacy with protection is frowned upon if you're married.

2. Financial Crises

Pretty self explanatory.

Things go downhill as romance takes a backseat. Not saying honeymoon phase should last forever, but with married couples... Everything becomes a blame game as time passes. Even with feminism in the air, which is to say wives work out too, there's always shortage of money in the house. Things get tricky if you live with your relatives. Or roommates (I don't know about West).

3. More Duties

A relationship is a campus tour, whereas marriage in itself is actually getting admission there.

Suddenly, you realise your sister-in-law ain't sugar and spice and everything nice. Your brother-in-law likes to borrow lota money for startup. And your partner's dogs are a bit much.

In case you don't live with your folks or anything, congrats, you're officially choked by the economy. Everything's expensive! Especially wedding reception..

4. Education And Work

How come you don't help me the kitchen? Why are you realising it just now I snore and it keeps you up? Hey! It's your turn to drive Maya and Tom to school. I'm very tired, why don't you go and ask mom?

Het marriages are innately sexist in dynamics. And stress gets in the way of proper communication sometimes.

Suddenly, your partner has their own job/education to get to and no longer are as supportive? Aw.

5. Everyone's Business

Relationship between two consenting individuals suddenly becomes everyone's knowledge. People pry, like it or hate it.

You had fever and your husband still forced you to cook? Geez, men right?

Your wife screwed up your dinner with your boss? Dang, that's rough. She's a woman, can't she even cook nice?

6. Feelings

Your partner changing mind about stuff you agreed on.. like saving up for retirement or not having children..

7. Lack of Intimacy

Work and kids really take up all your energy. Especially if you ain't rich with a nanny by your side.

All you wanna do is flop on the bed, hope they get the message and don't pae you, and wake up to a scrumptious breakfast.

A new position? Honey, I got headache. And look, Tom is having nightmares. Gotta go check.

8. Dreams

You wanna travel? How about a huge terrace garden? You'd like that yes? Well, you can't afford it. Budget is tight.

Maya ate those weird flowers again. She's got allergies. Couldn't you be more mindful?

You wanted to peacefully read Shakespeare? What about dinner? I'm not getting takeout! I have you.

I wanna go golfing.. but nobody in my family is interested. Minority loses I guess.

Honey! Maya is destroying my star wars collection! Get her off.

You can discuss the above issues beforehand, now that you're aware, but it's hardly gonna help. Coz optimism bias. Anyways! Ciao

anon1903 xoxo

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