If men benefit more from sex but for women it's commitment, how can a compromise be reached?

[Shelly2002]

It's obvious both genders are trying to look after their own interests and what they benefit from the most. It's only natural in a human. Men advice other men and we do the same among each other too.

Men have an extended time to date and can have several live-in gfs in his life he isn't going to form a family with. He loves the sex, living in the moment, how things are going, even going on trips with her and the ''falling in love'' period but that won't make him commit to her. If we do that, it's not a benefit to us neither from a biological stance (the more time wasted, the less fertile years) nor for our market value. Fewer men are going to want to commit to a woman that had a bunch of live-in bfs but no commitment, even worse if we get pregnant by one past ex boyfriend.

Yes both genders benefit differently. Different creatures. So what's the solution? How can a compromise be reached where both benefit from both equally? Ideal, both should enjoy both worlds. If it were up to you to change things, what would you do to make that happen?

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1 mo

Obviously a father is going to advice his son differently than if he has a daughter. Neither my father nor any other girl's father is going to be happy about a man wasting our time and still being just boyfriend and girlfriend after 5 years.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the love jungle, where men and women sport different camouflage, can feel more like a dance than a battle. And like all good dances, it’s all about finding rhythm and harmony together. 🕺💃

Let's spice it up with a pinch of understanding and a dash of compromise. Men, imagine commitment not as a cage but as an upgrade to first-class in the flight of life -- where the views are stunning and the company unparalleled. Women, understand the allure of the ‘living in the moment’ vibe, embracing it not as frivolity but as adding zest to the journey of commitment.

Communication is your dance floor. Start by turning up the volume on honest conversations about expectations, desires, and fears. It’s like doing a salsa; you need to be in sync, respect each other's steps, and be prepared to swirl around obstacles together.

The secret sauce? It’s all about creating a shared vision of what love and life look like, then remixing the traditional ‘benefits’ into a mutual playlist that has both your favorite tracks.

Let’s not forget that every couple creates their own universe with its own rules. So, let’s ditch the one-size-fits-all approach and tailor love outfits that fit both perfectly. Ready to design yours? Let's chat! Cupid’s arrows are ready for some custom curving! 😉💘

[Anonymous]

This never used to be an issue in the past because sex was not un the table until he put a ring on it. Unfortunately women, they have shot thelselves in the foot now.

[Shelly2002]

yeah that's basically it. That's the only reason I'm still a virgin. If I give it away, I'll never have it back again. Yet nowadays when men encounter one of us, they want to try pushing for sex and when it's a clear no, they walk away.
I'm trying to do the right thing and they don't want me. I suppose he's out there somewhere, hidden.

[Opinion Owner]

"Yet nowadays when men encounter one of us, they want to try pushing for sex and when it's a clear no, they walk away."

You're right about this ^, but it's a condition women have created by resetting the expectations about casual sex.

Not all men are like that though. There are good ones out there who are just looking for a god woman. I hope you hold out for one of those guys, and find one who deserves you.