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I was always told this growing up. I used to believe women understand men better then vice versa. But not anymore.

I believe women understood men better in earlier times out of necessity. They used to depend more on men to provide and protect them. It was important for them to understand men they wanted to get in a relationship with vs. those to avoid.

But in modern times women seem far less concerned about understanding men. Not that I expect them to naturally understand that. But one thing they seem to struggle with is understanding the difference between likeability / attraction vs. respect. Men actually crave respect more then they crave sex, intimacy, etc.

It’s possible to still respect someone even think you don’t like them. It’s about understanding their situation and what they have to deal with. And truly men generally understand this concept far better then women do.

One example is when I broke up with my ex girlfriend. At that point I was no longer attracted her at all. Can’t say I liked her much either. But I still respected her. I knew about her struggles and dreams. That’s why I gave her the respect of sitting down and breaking up face to face. Endured 2 hours of hell (screaming, crying, etc.).

But I don’t regret it. I didn’t fixate on her flaws and chastise her over grudges and things I didn’t like about her to self justify my decision (I’ve had women do that to me when I was dumped). I had enough respect for her that would just add insult to injury.

A girl might be like he’s the perfect guy - 6 months in dating she is used to him, he is not novelty, no matter how hot + rich etc...

That ‘other’ guy she sees on social media with the abs is novelty as she never had that.

Like with me apart from fame + defined six pack I do have every gift a man can have and I’m a nice guy. I can see my girlfriend getting more and more comfortable around me. She no longer compliments my tall height and ultra luxury things my family own or my looks, career as much. Like I am hung because I’m so fat but I’m only a bit longer than average.
She’s getting over all of it. I can see it.

Women want more and more, they want the novelty.

Best to just get happiness from yourself as no girl will make you happy.

Getting a girlfriend has made me realise, it’s only about your relationship with yourself that matters no other girl will complete or fulfil you.