Why is my girlfriend shy with me but sexually wild with strangers?

[nik_the_cur]

I've been in an on and off relationship with a girl, and with me she seems very restrained and awkward with several things, but has said with anyone else, she has no problem going wild. Why is that?

[sage2021]

It could be because she really likes you in a different, more special way then she does with other guy who don't mean anything to her but to be a slut with them.

She probably respects you and is awkward because she knows that you are too good for her.

This is really just a waste of your time! Do you really want a girl who admits to being a slut?

Find someone who you are more compatible with and who is on the same level as you are.

Stop 🛑 this merry-go-round once and for all. Don't allow your curiosity you have for her over ride that this isn't even a relationship. It's uneven that's for sure!

[Summeroflove]

She’s pretending to be someone she’s not and how do you know her sex life with other men? Some people also compartmentalize their romantic side if they see someone just romantically they may be awkward with sex if they see someone sexually they may be more wild in bed but not ever be able to have a deeper connection.

I would let her go she’s on again off again…. Seems like someone who’s not regulated if she’s telling you this stuff. You know if you get committed to her she will probably run off and cheat. Dude. Let her go. She’s not worth it. Let her go get knocked up by some dude and you won’t be the one raising someone else’s kid.

[OlderAndWiser]

Going "wild" in what ways? Maybe she doesn't view it as going "wild."

[nik_the_cur]

Like doing more slutty things. She says so

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you with her if she is having slutty sex with others?

[nik_the_cur]

She has when she's not with me

[OlderAndWiser]

You don't want to have a monogamous relationship?

[nik_the_cur]

She doesn't

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you looking for a long term partner?

[nik_the_cur]

Yes I am

[OlderAndWiser]

Would you want this girl to teach your future teen daughter how to behave?

[nik_the_cur]

So she's not girlfriend material?

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you want your daughter to grow up and be just like her mom/this slutty girl you are talking about?

[bobalife]

Maybe because it’s you… who makes her shy and if she’s more submissive type. It reminds me of me how I’m only that way with someone I actually really care about. But you can also just have a deep conversation about it and understand each other better.

[rini02]

If that's coming in the way of your relationship, then maybe you guys can talk about it and have a clear conversation about it.

[Chevy1_kb]

Not to sure about that one sounds nuts

[nik_the_cur]

Lol why?

[Chevy1_kb]

Just nuts hos she shy with you her boyfriend but okay with strangers

[Nikki1989]

That is all on you.

[nik_the_cur]

Could be, but why?

[slatyb]

Because she's using you

[Sammy098]

She sounds like a red flag to me

[nik_the_cur]

Maybe, but why?

[Trevor2K2]

@nik_the_cur hey, message me please? I am trying to find some bi or gay guys to talk to on here but they all go anon every time, I’m about ready to give up lol